It's hard to let go of a relationship most of the time. You give labor to someone for a certain period of time; Then you can't walk away easily.. It takes courage, it takes strength to fight life alone. Sometimes circumstances are so difficult! But you see, someone whose conditions are much more difficult gave up their relationship in a much shorter time.
What are the difficulties of the conditions? Material, child/s, environment?? Or it could be a different reason.. So why can one of two people with the same conditions end their relationship?? What makes the person more determined and keeps the decision made? Is it the time spent in a relationship, personality, beliefs, thoughts, cultural structure or gender… What do you think? Generally, we establish a direct proportion between 'the duration of the relationship and the decision to continue the relationship'. But the truth is NOT EXACTLY LIKE that. Because you may have been thinking about leaving for a very long time and can't decide. In fact, you're exactly what's prolonging the relationship. NOW, I want you to think FIRST TIME when you think about ending your relationship, then LAST TIME. What is the difference between the two timeframes? Do you really keep going because something has changed OR IS IT BECAUSE OF THE PRICES YOU THINK YOU WILL PAY? Are you covering it up or focusing your attention on other things? If you're doing one of these, I'd say you're playing on the run. Actually the problem is not solved, it is just POSTPONED. Then the investments gradually increase. Children, promises, mixed lives… You can never give up; You invest another 10, 20 years saying, "I have invested 10 years now", "I have invested my 15 years", "I will leave, someone will sit on what I have been dealing with for 15 years"... You decide, then you start blaming yourself. "I wonder if I did my best"... A vicious circle goes on and on... You constantly increase your investment in order not to lose what you have. But then you see, ONE DAY EVERYTHING HAPPENED TO YOU OR YOU WANTED IT SO AFTER ALL YEARS AND WORK... THE PRICES HAVE BEEN HEAVY...
You always ignore that the investment will increase day by day and then it will be harder to terminate. Most of the time, you act with the anxiety of ''what will the earth say'' . Indeed, we are often in a rush to be approved by people and to be liked by others. However, there are no such people around us, neither during or after the problem. So what's the fuss about? So what happens without the approval of others? Failure?? Does it mean 'being a person who can't manage the relationship well', or can it be a PERFECTIONAL PERSONALITY who takes care of everything in life or does not tolerate making mistakes? Or are you obsessed with the labels you stick to yourself, like being a 'divorced woman or a 'divorced man'?
There may also be THOUGHTS such as ''What if I can't find someone else'', ''I won't be able to find someone'' . You may be anxious, have emotional ups and downs, or have a sensitive personality, which can negatively affect your relationship. For example, you have a hard time being yourself. For example, you do things you wouldn't normally do to avoid a problem, you are more cautious, or you just want everything to be over. What is this rush? I can tell you that you are result-oriented and that you cannot enjoy the moment, that is, the PROCESS. Your previous relationships, your lives, your mistakes, etc. You act without filtering. Not realizing that it's your thoughts and personality that's ACTUALLY accelerating you (Besides, it usually takes a therapy process to reach such awareness!!!)... OR you continue to be with a person who is not very comfortable OR you seem to be getting into it; but the concessions and promises you have made are incalculable. You keep sacrificing yourself, consciously or unconsciously. Usually you are not aware of the sensitivities that force you to be like this. DEFICIENCY, DEFICIENCY, FAILURE, etc. Your beliefs sit in your heart at every opportunity and lead you to some behaviors. When the concessions you make increase, you find yourself in a relationship where you can't be like yourself or are not liked by the other person. When that time comes, it will be more difficult for you to give up the relationship. For…
Life goes by while you deal with it. Also, you see that the things you used to care about have lost their importance and you regret what you couldn't do in time. The more interesting part of the job is that there are people you hang out with and want to get approval from. Either they are not around you or their life views have changed. You experience deep anger, disappointment, regret or sadness... But the last regret does not help, what happened and time flies...
Those who show this courage are always happy is it ok? It is not possible to make a clear comment on this matter. Because sometimes we have to live and see, otherwise we are no different from a fortune teller. BUT I CAN SAY THAT; Sometimes endings lead to new beginnings, and the costs that you cannot give up or that we are afraid to pay may prevent us from paying heavier prices in the future. On the other hand, I think that being able to endure pain and cope with difficulties is a part of life that should be part of life and makes a person mature. As he struggles with difficulty, he feels stronger and braver; and be proud of it.
BUT I HIGHLY RECOMMEND TO THINK AND THINK BEFORE ENDING YOUR RELATIONSHIP…
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