An idea, not a pattern... The poor with a diamond crest; The secret is untouched in the open; Woman... A mirage running away in the desert; Altar with a lasso in its direction... Solid metal suffering; Woman... A trap for bottomless longing; While it is closest, it is farthest.... Supplies taste like poison; A sign, an example. An example of separation symbol. Woman, a symbol of the path to God... Necip Fazıl Kısakürek Woman... The balance of nature, the indispensable part... The other half of the apple. These come to my mind when I think of women. And also the "hadith" of the Prophet Muhammad. Our prophet said: "Heaven is under the feet of mothers." Since mothers are also women, I think they are closer to heaven than men. This undisputed sublimity of the female has always been subordinated almost since the beginning of human history, and has often been hidden in an anonymous cover. This must be due to male dominance based on physical strength. Because men do not have this perfect equipment of women. Çetin ALTAN conducted his research on this subject under the title “Women on the Divan”: “I think among men; Not many people have cursed women as much as our Ottoman poets. Fazıl Efendi charges women with an arrogance that will raise the women of the world to their feet: Anulur (can they be considered the same as the little bitch who is a private) mu kaki (goat) Curly and Sümbülzade Vehbi Efendi summarizes the problem with his famous misogyny: What a clear eye they are pure magicians What kind of headscarved accursed are they? It is unknown why they were so angry with women. However, until the middle of the last century; In the market outside the Nuruosmaniye gate of the Grand Bazaar, poor people were sold almost by the large amount. After performing the imam marriage and drinking the sherbet; Did you get angry the next morning and shout: "The jug is empty"? The new bride was returning to her mother's house, tucking her clothes under her arm. And you, with the religious ceremony, could buy another one and shout again the next morning: "The jug is empty." Or you would go to the captive market, take a good look at every part of it, then buy one you liked and bring it home. After a while; If you wanted, you could still take it and sell it in the market. You were buying a new one by paying a few cents more. Since there was no prose tradition in our Ottoman literature; No one wrote the memoirs of mothers or grandmothers taken from the slave market. �r. Foreigners who came to Istanbul in the old centuries mostly wrote about the captive markets. In a society where women are so impersonal; However, we do not know why the poets rail against them. Women, on the other hand, have nothing to say about men. Apart from cursing themselves: "I hope God blinds both eyes and makes them crawl"... The anger that Ottoman poets felt towards women is so cruel and deep that it surprises people. However, they are the ones who wrote many love poems with lace and carving. Apparently, they looked at the woman as follows: "I can curse, beat, and love at the same time"... Even in our age, it is a bit like this. But at least criticism and criticism are no longer the sole monopoly of men. Moreover, perhaps more and more; Contrary to the past, it will be the monopoly of women only.” In fact, the masculine power that considers itself superior is quite helpless in the face of the female; Because he owes his entire existence to her support, whether he wants it or not. He may or may not be aware of this, but the ego of his structured body, equipped with physical strength, has always ignored this concept. Despite her physical weakness, women are actually much stronger than men. Talking about their natural abilities, Duhamel says that they "have more wisdom than men, but they know less and understand more." Science has determined that they have much higher pain thresholds than men. He has many shortcomings. Positive with their flexibility, sacred with their fertility and motherhood; They are also beloved with their charm. If we take a look at history, we see that behind almost all of the powerful leaders, except Mustafa Kemal, there is a woman. Since Attila and Cengiz came from a matriarchal society, they got their real power from the support of their mothers, even though they were with their wives. We see Josephine behind Napoleon, Eva Braun behind Hitler, and Eva behind Juan Peron, who created a revolution in Argentina. Viktor Hugo said, “Love is a sea, woman is the shore of that huge ocean.” You continue your sea pleasure by setting foot on land to relieve your stress. One of our proverbs states that "the woman is the envelope, the man is the victim" and that the envelope absorbs every negative behavior, every mistake of the man, in short, every formation that goes against them is "the man's". It describes the destruction of the "arrogant to their forgiveness". By the way, let's say that Mazruf means "what goes inside the envelope". In addition to their natural characteristics such as "being able to earn a living", as Confucius stated, "They forgive everything, but they never forget." Women also have this side. The war against darkness led by Atatürk changed direction after his death, under the guise of reaching its goal; By perverting the light of its principles, the return to the past has been accelerated. Not a day goes by without incidents of violence against women. It does not seem possible for us to calculate whether there is a chance of getting rid of this situation in which our country's people are stakeholders. The defense powers of women, whose positivity spectrum is very wide, are also relatively high, but women in societies whose development is like ours or below ours are not aware of this. They immediately block the pipes of anyone who notices it. Halide Edip Adıvar's argument on this subject is as follows: "Women die not for those who love them, but for those who rule over them." We see that this is part of the “feudal structure”. Due to its nature, it is very difficult to mold it; It turns out that he wants to... Otherwise, he reverses the rules he seems to have accepted. Alexandre Dumas also has the following observation: "Women have no pity on the man they do not love." Publius Syrus, one of the thinkers of the archaic age, also said, "A woman either loves or hates; “There is no middle ground,” concludes Dumas with the words. Another aspect of them is that they are affectionate, convergent and selfless. “A woman is her husband's lover in youth, his friend in adulthood, and his caregiver in old age.” Says Francis Bacon and adds: “The more women a woman contains within herself, the more she is loved.” In other words, she is loved as much as she can embody "lover, friend, mother, housewife, cook, maid and other elements". Because these are qualities that men do not have. Hazrat Omar says, “The best thing given to a person after faith is a righteous woman.” Let us note that Saliha carries the meaning of convenient, good, suitable. The libretto of Mozart's opera "All Women Do Like This" is also interesting. We think that the attention the author expected from women caused him to lose hope when he received constant advice. a b There are these lines in the title: “Whoever expects loyalty from a woman's heart; "He plows the sea, throws seeds in the sand, wants to catch the wind with a net." This behavior may be due to not being able to find the person he expected; The strong reproductive instinct says that perhaps she should wait for perfection... Spanish philosopher José Ortega Gasset also expressed the emotional pleasure that a woman can achieve with a man as follows: “A woman's love, her divine surrender of her inner being, as a passionate woman does, is perhaps the only thing that cannot be achieved through rationality.” . The core of the female mind; No matter how intelligent a woman is, she is loaded with an irrational power. If the male is a rational creature, the female is an irrational creature. This is the highest happiness we find in a woman.” Lord Byron made a point about women: "The terrible thing about women is that you can neither live with them nor without them." We think so too. As we mentioned from the beginning, women are the other half of the apple. Journalist and writer Pakize Hanım (Pakize Suda) answers a man who says he is trying to understand women as follows: “-You will follow the cockroach! While the cockroach is rapidly moving towards one direction, it suddenly stops and starts running in a completely different direction, even though it does not encounter any obstacles. "If you have figured out the reason for this, then you have understood women." This is a female writer's idea about women's intelligibility. When we go back to the past, we also see women who rebelled against the male-dominated life. One of them is Aurora Dupin, who fought with her pen, under her pen name George Sand. Aurora, who was raised by her grandmother from a young age and spent her life in a monastery for a while, was male-dominated. He was only able to survive his marriage for a year and became a distinguished man of letters by overcoming many difficulties with his efforts to earn his living as a writer with the strength of his inner self. He received appreciation and support from the giants of literary history such as Balzac, Flaubert, Musset and Alexandre Dumas and said: "He has all the personality traits of a man." Even though he was told that "This honor belongs to men", they did not accept him to the "Academie Française". This negative concept took the stage again. But he does not care. With the power of his lively personality, he emphasizes that this is unimportant. In the letter he wrote to the Russian writer Ivan Turgenev Flaubert said: “I cried like a child when he was buried. "In order to know what a wonderful sense of femininity this very valuable person has and what a wonderful compassion there is within this genius, you need to know her as I do." Here is Aurora Dupin... A great woman who cannot be intimidated by male domination! The other one fought with her gun, Martha Jane Canary. Society gave her the name Calamity Jane. This is someone with a dirty mouth, who drinks whiskey and chews tobacco in a man's way; but brave… but against injustice, especially against social hypocrisy. His weapon is also very powerful. By the way, let us remind you that Calamity means trouble and dirt. The past is full of such women. Come on, don't appreciate them as a man! Let's complete the article with the words of a thinker: "Your life is the woman you choose... If you meet a woman with taste, your taste increases, and if you meet a woman with knowledge, your knowledge increases. Life is many times. It rises in terraces like the Hanging Gardens of Babylon, and that woman takes you from one terrace to another. And the terrace you stand on today, the view you watch, the life you see is the terrace, view and life of the woman next to you... Your life is the woman you choose.” I hereby pay my respects to all the women whose horizons I sometimes cannot understand and sometimes cannot reach. Let them experience furtive glances, first touches, heart palpitations that make you jump, sweet dreams while sleeping and awake... In short, I wish love to all of them.
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