In our bilateral relations, sometimes, if we do not want to, repetitive patterns of behavior and problems arise as a result. The basis of these problems are the beliefs we have developed since our childhood, our personality and genetic factors. Our beliefs, which are formed in response to our experiences at a young age, can become functional by being addressed during the psychotherapy process and replaced with healthier thoughts. On the other hand, some personality tendencies carried by genes insist on directing our lives and are equally difficult to change. Among these personality structures, narcissism, which can be defined as a person's self-love, can be a personality structure or a severe personality disorder. If the person in front of you has narcissistic characteristics, it will not be difficult to understand this. If he constantly talks about himself and his achievements, displays his achievements in his private areas such as medals and photographs, puts his own needs before those of others, is extremely sensitive to criticism, and attaches great importance to his appearance, it will make us think about his personality. Moreover, in a bilateral relationship, these people may not reciprocate while expecting attention and privilege, they can get angry when they are indifferent, they do not hesitate to use and exploit the other person to achieve their goals, and perhaps most importantly, they do not have a developed sense of empathy, that is, putting themselves in others' shoes.
If you have fallen in love with him/her. or if you're struggling to be friends. What you can do is to manage them and make them exist in your life. Feel free to praise and praise him for his accomplishments, but it will be more effective if you do it genuinely rather than constantly. When he trusts you in this way, he will often choose you first to complain about others. At this stage, you can help him understand the reactions of others. You can tell him that everyone perceives things from their own perspective. When you are with him, remember that he thinks of himself before you. Details that are meaningless to you may be perceived by him as a lack of interest. Accusing him of being egoistic will definitely not help you. Criticizing his behavior rather than his personality will help him become less angry. A person's love for us While the feeling of jealousy that occurs when we learn about the successes we think we deserve is a normal situation, a narcissistic person experiences this feeling ten times more. Therefore, it is wiser not to tell him about our own achievements. Finally, don't forget to protect yourself against him using you. If this person is your spouse or lover, you can focus on their positive characteristics. If it is your colleague, I advise you to be careful so that he does not take your place...
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