Children's psycho-social development is shaped by their families and the environment they live in. Parents are the first representation of the outside world for children, so they are the most important determinant of the child's view of life. The approach of the parents towards their children, their attitudes and the language they use are very important because the language learned here will be the way the child speaks to himself. When parents communicate with their children correctly, they take the most important step towards their psychological development, so that children who can communicate in a healthy way in their inner world turn into adults who can have a healthy environment and lead a happy life.
The foundations of communication are laid in the first years of life. Starting from this period, children learn to cope with problems, accept and seek solutions. In this process, healthy communication with the child affects the child in many areas throughout his life. The correct structuring of communication dynamics, which have such a wide range of influence, is possible by knowing and applying the do's and don'ts in this regard.
What should we do for effective and healthy communication?
Healthy communication with children The basic principle of the establishment is to accept the child unconditionally, to respect their wishes and thoughts and to give importance to their ideas. The basic building block that makes communication strong is unconditional acceptance. Even when exhibiting undesirable behavior, the child should know that only his behavior is not approved, not his personality.
Listening to the child effectively is also a very useful method to give the child a sense of being understood. active listening; It requires not interrupting by making eye contact, opening up what the child is saying. In this way, you can better understand and support your child. When talking to children, being respectful as if you are talking to an adult, and being patient and compassionate without forgetting that you are talking to a child, makes communication stronger. it feels safe. At the same time, one of the most important factors for healthy communication is to spend time with children and is to share. Spend as much time as possible with your child and make him or her feel that this time is very valuable to you.
What We Shouldn't Do?
Another point as important as using healthy methods in communication with children is communication that will make the child feel bad. to stay away from patterns. The effects of these methods, which are sometimes not even noticed to be wrong, on children are quite permanent and intense. These are;
Using sentences containing the imperative mood
Making decisions on behalf of the child without his/her opinions
Indifference, not taking it seriously, being interested in something else when the child is talking
Not making eye contact
Staying distant enough to make you feel distant in the field of communication
Making hints with gestures and facial expressions
Negative use of body language (head movements, shaking of the feet, etc.) .)
Threatening the child with something he/she likes
Criticizing and questioning constantly
Making unnecessary warnings against the child's every behavior
Making comments without understanding the child
A child who feels that he is not listened to or understood by his parents has difficulty in communicating with the people around him, avoids or closes himself completely to communication. One of the most important issues in child development is to establish healthy communication with children and to help them achieve this communication. During this effort, remember that wrong communication builds walls, right communication builds bridges. Hope you can build bridges to the future with your children...
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