Is it a situation in Turkish society where women earn more than men, which offends, breaks and makes Turkish men feel oppressed?
Some of the characteristics that make a woman a woman and a man a man are due to genes. It is also gained through social learning. Although most of the characteristics that make up gender roles are genetically based, the social roles of men and women are related to the environment in which they live and cultural learning. In the early ages of humanity, while men had to go hunting and feed their family with game meat, women had to play the role of mother and protect their children. While the woman must have a developed sense of fear in order to protect her children when the father is not at home; A man's aggressive nature was seen as a requirement of his hunter character.
Therefore, as supported by neurobiological research today, it is wrong to say that men and women are biologically equal. But one is not superior to the other. The two genders are different from each other.
Over time, as cultures formed, social roles emerged in addition to the gender roles determined by genes, and despite all these biological differences between men and women,“emotionally”they interact with each other as a part of a whole. While they continue to be accepted as complementary, they have begun to confront each other in every field and in every field, socially and culturally. Thus, the belief that women's success in society will be achieved by "becoming masculine" has become widespread, and the biological dimension of the gender role of women in their social position has been ignored.
Therefore, the issue is to earn more or be in a better position. Rather than whether or not, it is whether the boundaries of gender roles of both sexes are kept clear. These limits will of course vary in parallel with the ages and cultural development, but the minimum limit must be maintained. Well; Changing the role of women in society without taking into account their "genetic tendencies" harms her and men. What makes men feel inferior and offends; society's desire to masculinize successful women and to make the opposite sex perceive each other as natural enemies This is because they put them in a race to rule over each other. Emotional relationships were damaged by this race, women were victimized and pushed into loneliness; Men, on the other hand, are worried.
Women of our age feel the need to be free on the one hand, and to be protected and loved on the other. The need to be protected and loved is related to gender roles, no matter how great social successes are achieved or how much money is earned. A woman can be completely happy if she has a man who takes care of her. One thing that should not be forgotten is; Women's psychological needs such as protection and love become more evident with their emancipation (that is, their success in social roles and financial opportunities). A man who can see and know this will not be in a situation where he will feel oppressed, as he will be able to meet the needs of the woman in front of him, regardless of her position. However, in cultures where the patriarchal family structure is dominant, such as Turkish society, despite all kinds of socioeconomic development, cultural learning has normalized men earning more than women and having better social success. Although there is no rule that says otherwise, the man will be offended or feel oppressed; The preference of both genders will be for the man to earn more (if given the option). Because this is a situation that does not contradict the characteristics in the genes. And when the system is at peace with society, it works more smoothly. Especially individuals raised in patriarchal societies can be confused by society, even if they are not, about how to deal with other situations.
- When women are in CEO, executive, manager positions, do men who are not in a position like them and who do not earn money cheat on their wives? ?
- Could this be a method of suppressing the feeling of humiliation?
Cheating is generally related to the way the character is portrayed. The ways a man who experiences a feeling of humiliation can cope with this feeling differ from character to character. Some men give in to this feeling; some ignore it. Others may damage the relationship, leading to destructive behavior. An individual who feels humiliated feels like other people. He sees himself as more flawed, less complete and worthless than he is. If the character of a man who cannot face these feelings is appropriate, cheating may come to the fore. Because men, like women, need feelings of being appreciated, approved and admired. Since an individual who experiences a feeling of humiliation will dislike himself, feel flawed and incomplete, the attention of the opposite sex will provide him with a temporary state of well-being to relieve these feelings. However, it is worth noting that even though the attention he receives is good for him, not every man cheats on his wife. If there is one thing that is valid for all people, it is; No one or no situation can make a person feel inferior unless he allows it. Therefore, what a man who feels like this needs to do is to confront this feeling, accept that this is a situation related to himself, and take steps to solve it and live a better quality and more satisfied life.
- He who goes on trips and stays late at night. Do problems arise because female managers who work overtime neglect their homes and spouses?
The main problem arises from men's failure to adapt to the new roles women have acquired in society and women's position at home not changing. Even though women are actively present in business life, they never abandon their roles as mothers and housewives. However, if the man does not help his wife, expects the woman to fulfill her housewife role completely and wants everything to go well when she goes home, it will be inevitable for both genders to arise dissatisfaction as the woman's burden will increase even more.
- Is there any man/partner who wouldn't mind?
The higher the satisfaction a man gets from his life, his self-satisfaction and the pleasure he gets from the relationship, the more likely he will be satisfied with his wife's achievements. Those with high status orientation, that is; Men who care about their own and their partner's social position, who attach importance to wealth, respect and title, are not disturbed by the high social position of the woman with whom they have an emotional bond, on the contrary, they may encourage it.
Independent of the man's character, the quality of the relationship the couple has is also a determining factor in this regard. it could be. Well; who are aware of the differences in gender roles despite social impositions, This is not a problem for couples who respect each other and can have a highly satisfying relationship to meet their psychological needs.
- Is the formula for happiness hidden in the man's earning a lot?
No matter how much a woman earns, she has various emotional tendencies. Women's need to be loved is greater than men's. It is seen that a woman becomes liberated when she earns a lot, but cannot be happy if her psychological needs are not met. The formula for happiness lies in accepting and respecting the biological differences of men and women and complementing each other as if they were a part of a whole.
However, for centuries, the male type has been idealized as independent, strong, protective and able to sacrifice himself for his wife. It has been engraved in our genes as a result of cultural accumulation. As a natural result of this, although the only formula for happiness for women is not for men to earn more; Since it is suitable for the ideal man type that our cultural background has taught us, that condition is still accepted as the more desired situation and where peace between the sexes can be achieved more easily.
- Suggestions/recommendations for male and female spouses
It is a fact that as women's status in society increases and they take over a large part of the workforce, the gender roles of men and women change, and men who cannot cope with this become anxious, women are pushed into loneliness, and eventually bilateral relations are damaged. . But love is a genetic tendency. Basic spiritual needs of both genders; They can be connected to each other securely. The most important element in relationships is that genders can share life while preserving their own identities. A person should be independent without being selfish, free without being superior. This can be achieved with the effort and investment of both genders.
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