Example from life:
“I would plan the work I would do from evening to morning, from morning to evening, so that he would not open his mouth.”
He had a tiresome scolding and a vinegar-selling face. He would come to my job, which I started in the morning, at noon, when he woke up from the effects of the alcohol he drank in the evening. Just as his hands and face were swollen, his brain must also have been swollen.
Continuously crushing people by looking for flaws with his scary, empathetic looks must have fed him.
He could extend his working hours, which started at noon, until midnight. In fact, he was a poor man who could sleep by numbing his brain with the alcohol he drank consecutively in the second half of the night, after waking up with coffees he drank one after another.
He came to his senses around 17 o'clock in the evening. His facial muscles could relax and he could smile. I assumed there might be a “human” under this hard shell. When I was little, I would try to take a self-defense position by looking only at my mother's hands, who beat me many times, and at her face, i.e. her eyes and corners of her mouth, to guess her emotions. I was doing the same thing to him. He tries to understand the boss, who seems angry and hurt. I would be eternally grateful to him for giving me a salary and allowing me to educate my children, and I would forgive him as if he were a disabled person, and go about my business. After all, because I was unhappy, angry, and a "perfectionist" thanks to my mother, who took her anger out on me and beat me, I was programmed to "produce" a me who didn't eat unless she was starving, who didn't sleep unless she collapsed from exhaustion.
When I started working after the manager who showed passive-aggressive resistance to the boss and sat idle all the time, getting himself fired after 9 months, even the low-intelligence secretary noticed my work efficiency. I'm doing my job as if I'm praying, waiting for the boss to recognize and accept me and to get rid of the wounds of former employee ingratitude. After all, my mother, who had beaten me physically and psychologically the most in this life, made me a man and created me. Just as my mother used me to the end, saying, "What you work for is for me, what you learn for yourself", this boss was also using me wisely and was making a lot of profit. Since anger and disrespect are at an equal distance to everyone, I look at my own path, my work, my learning and believe that it feeds me. I turned my anger into energy and found the strength and energy to open a business for myself. Underneath its hard shell was a rotten almond, not an almond like my mother, but to hell with it. When I started working for him, I was so lonely and helpless that I had to keep silent to this boss in order to provide for my children who were studying in the most expensive schools. My trusted wife, who loved with her eyes closed and gave up control of my everything and my income, fell in love with the short-tempered, sexy chimpanzee she had walking around with her. My wife, who was out of her mind and dyed her hair, saw neither her children nor me. “
Author's note:
Playing with sensitive people's emotions and manipulating their lives as they wish is the tactics of these hunters, sometimes by making you happy, honoring you, sometimes by making you feel well-off, sometimes by intimidating or boring you with their anger, They continue on their way and make a profit for themselves. Remember, while the anger you receive from him consumes all your strength and ruins your week, he continues his life peacefully an hour later. Such people may not just be your boss or your mother. Sometimes your husband, whom you love and think of as an angel, and sometimes your child or teenager, whom you have raised with your own hands, think that they are tiring you out and training you to the desired level. First, learn and apply “communication skills and anger management”. If you can't change anything and you have to; “Consider them disabled” and continue on your own path.
If you don't have to, shake them off, they are not worth the drain on your internal energy. They are truly disabled because their mirror neurons, which are stated to be located in the prefrontal area, do not work and they do not have the ability to empathize. Also, the evil they inflict on the environment "turns around like a boomerang and hits them." Do not pollute your mouth and soul even with your curses. I am the most precious! And say 'First of all, Allah'…
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