Disciplined summer vacation; Dear parents, schools are on holiday and we see feelings such as stress and anxiety in some of you with the report card. You ask yourself the question "What will we do with the children for three months?" Especially if you have a child who is going through a difficult process or has behaviors such as conduct disorder, disobedience or opposition, it can be very difficult to manage this process.
First of all, we should not forget this. Each of our children deserves a holiday, regardless of the outcome. When parents' attitudes towards our children, who have been looking forward to the holiday since the beginning of the year, are negative, the child can feel empty. They may make negative questions about themselves such as "I went on vacation and my family is unhappy with this situation...", "I went on vacation and that's why they are nervous...".
First of all, it is useful to know this: “For your children. It will be much more productive to be a reservoir of hope and peace for them rather than a reservoir of anxiety.” If your concerns are not about your child, you can start the day by sharing these concerns with your children. "As your mother, I worry when you don't go to school for 3 months. Sentences such as "Can you help me with this?" will both make your children cooperate and put you, the parents, at ease.
Accusing language is of no use!
Your children's attitudes that shake your authority and violate boundaries It is not because they do not go to school. Just spending more time with schools closed may cause you to face more problems. If you have boundary and authority problems, it is important to remember that our children will have problems with whomever they are during the summer vacation. Their wishes are of course very important, but as a parent, you should draw your boundaries and talk from the beginning about what you can and cannot do for them.
If there are rules and limits that we cannot do or set during the year, it can actually be much more difficult to comply with them during the summer vacation. The child wants to relax during the holiday, stay away from classes, and spend his time just having fun. At this point, the best thing parents can do is to offer their children a disciplined summer holiday.
Disciplined summer holiday. How can it be?
Children need their parents' help to make their summer vacation enjoyable and productive. This requires good planning. When planning a summer holiday, you should spare time for rest, travel and fun; Compensation for courses with low academic success should also be taken into consideration during the semester. It is important for children to plan their summer holidays together with their families. Summer vacation planned outside the child's presence cannot go beyond an imposition and prevents the child from doing it willingly and willingly.
While making this planning, it is useful to pay attention to the following:
*Do not want to leave the house during the holiday; There will undoubtedly be children who want to spend most of their time in their rooms, in front of the internet on a computer or tablet. This situation should remind us that steps should be taken to strengthen the social relations of the child or young person. Especially during growth and adolescence, children and young people being together with their friends will support the development of their social skills. During the holiday period, people should be encouraged to spend time outdoors and socialize with their peers.
*It should not be forgotten that restrictions should be placed on pleasurable activities such as computers, tablets or television during the holiday. It is very important that the hours and days are determined with a nice conversation.
*Summer schools and camps; These are programs where students improve themselves through sports, arts and social activities and provide them with the opportunity to use their time effectively and usefully. Primary and secondary school students are the student groups that benefit most from summer schools. Families often prefer summer schools, where students can strengthen their art, sports and social skills, knowing that they are under adult responsibility and institutional security.
Spend quality time and create routines
*Working parents can make plans to spend more quality time with their children during the holiday period. Playing games together at home, going for a walk outdoors, doing sports together, cycling, board games in the free time after work. Activities such as playing games and watching movies will also make your children happy.
*Returning to old routines shortly before schools start after holidays, arranging bedtime in the evening and waking up in the morning, minimizing the hours spent in front of the computer and television, Choosing stationery for school needs together not only initiates your child's school orientation and adaptation, but also makes it easier to be mentally ready for the new school term. It would be better for the student to organize the last two weeks before schools start and spend time in their own home environment.
*Finally, tell your children that you love them a lot. Don't forget to make plenty of physical contact. Emphasize to him what he did better during the year and reinforce him. Listen to what summer vacation means to him, but never judge. Even if, despite everything, he does not listen to you and wants to continue on his own path, remind your child what will happen to him as a result of his choices and what awaits him. The last thing you should do is: "Leave the responsibility to your child." Never be angry at them for not listening to you, let them question life. I wish you a peaceful and enjoyable holiday in advance.
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