Self-confidence is not a concept that occurs suddenly; events experienced over time ensure the formation and development of self-confidence in the child. The items I will briefly mention below will guide you in your child's self-confidence development.
SHOW UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Your child should know that you will never stop loving him, no matter what he does. When talking about his negative behavior, you should avoid giving him messages indicating that your love for him has decreased. Your messages are “I love you; Even though your room is dirty, even though your grades are not very good, even though I don't like what you do, I still love you.
LEARN TO LISTEN
When your children try to tell you something, you should take care to listen to them, even if you think it is very unimportant. Children's feelings, observations and perceptions are worth listening to, and doing so increases children's self-confidence. When he wants to say something, if you really can't spare time for him, tell him that you are not available and when you will be available, make sure to listen to him at the time you say. Listening is the most important stage of understanding. TAKE IT SERIOUSLY
The child's experiences and thoughts may be unreal, but what they feel is real. Instead of rejecting your child's fears and negative emotions, take him seriously and allow him to overcome them and find his own solution.
RESPECT THE CHILD'S SPECIAL ITEMS
Parents often retain control of the toys and books they give their children. For example; It is the parents, rather than the child, who decide to dispose of an item. Even though you think your child is past the age of playing with that toy, the child may still need it. That's why you should ask him before throwing away his belongings.
AVOID GIVING CONTRADICTIVE MESSAGES
When parents express one thing with their words and another with their actions. conflicting messages emerge. For example; Tell your child "I love you" without looking at him/her in a very angry manner or lie. If you ask him not to say anything and get angry when he tells the truth, it may cause him conflict. In order to raise self-confident children, it is first necessary to be honest with the child. When you are angry, you should not tell him that you are not angry. You should be a model for the child and do what you tell him. You must keep your promises. Your wishes and rules should be clear, and you should make sure that your words and body language match each other.
GIVE RESPONSIBILITY
Teach children to do things on their own. and it is necessary to give them the opportunity to explore. In this case, it is important for them to realize when they make mistakes and take responsibility. It is useful to provide guidance where necessary. Especially in tasks that are difficult for the child, the help and guidance of the parents will be good for the child. Being independent and responsible is a situation that develops, so guidance is necessary. To do this, the child is first guided, taught how to handle certain things, explained where they fail, and gradually the help is reduced. p>
Every child is unique and special. Every child has a different intelligence, interest and talent. Instead of comparing your child with other children, support them in researching and discovering new things by providing them with the opportunity to participate in activities in line with their interests and abilities. In this way, you will make them feel self-confident by revealing their existing talents.
DO NOT SET GOALS THAT THEY CANNOT REACH
Every child can do things differently. It has capacity and level. Even though you know your child cannot do something, do not expect it from him and end up disappointing him. Aim for goals that they can achieve and ensure that they are successful.
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