CHILD PSYCHOLOGY, TERROR AND COUP
While it is extremely difficult for us, as adults, to understand what is happening in our country, why our children are ready to die for this country and why two people kill each other. It is very difficult for them to understand who we are defending ourselves against and why by going out to the streets late at night, saying that soldiers and police officers can shoot each other and kill each other. Throughout history, the concepts of "GOOD"and"BAD" have created two polarizations, and both poles have clashed with each other and even had to kill each other for the peace and prosperity of the society within the framework of their own understanding.
As an expert, what I prioritize when evaluating the issue of terrorism and what I try to implement in my own life is this; We need to preserve our values of trust, love, belief, courage, optimism and hope in developments that are beyond our control, and to look ahead without losing our composure, seeing the negativities as an opportunity to improve our immunity.
Every Trauma Leaves a Mark, and This Trace If it is permanent, it is called "Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder".
If you are under the influence of one or more of the following issues and are experiencing STRESS, it means that you have probably turned the "stress of a traumatic situation" into a habit.
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Repetitive thoughts occupy your mind. (Memories)
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If memories of those moments that you do not want to remember come to your mind frequently and renew themselves in your brain and reinforce their traces.
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If you experience feelings that are normally foreign to you, such as reluctance, forgetfulness, insecurity, alienation from people, while performing your daily routines.
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If you experience one or more of the following: sleep disorders, anger, emotional confusion, desire to escape from the environments you are in, physical pain, tendency towards substance use, increase in alcohol and cigarette consumption, or nervous discharge, you are called "Traumatic Stress Disorder" It means you are experiencing the symptoms of.
“Stress Disorder” seen in adults. uğu” manifests itself with slightly different symptoms in children and adolescents;
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Fear of losing or separation from parents
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Nightmares, disruption of sleep rhythm
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Bed-wetting and getting out of bed screaming
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Persistence of unexplained distress for a long time
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Gamification by constantly repeating negative images
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Developing a state of fear and anxiety about things that used to be considered normal
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Extreme unhappiness and physical pain
The presence of a past traumatic story (violence, abuse, death, etc.) can increase the effects of the trauma experienced. The basis of all psychological disorders lies in the inability to express emotions in a healthy way. For this reason, we do not find a method based on hiding, suppressing or ignoring our emotions healthy. Although it may be more difficult to confront emotions than to escape from them, in the long run it prevents the future from being mortgaged by generalizing the negative memories it will create.
The best aspect of a trauma is; It is knowing that it is in the past and that we can liberate our future from its influence without repeating the past. In order to protect our children from traumas, we must first learn to purify ourselves from their effects in a healthy way.
Here are 10 methods that will help you inform your children about terrorism and coup;
10 ways to explain terrorism to children;
You don't need to explain much to a child who is not of school age. As much as possible, do not talk about what is going on with this child, who is not yet out of play age and perceives everything as a game. Do not watch TV while the child is awake, do not bring newspapers home, and remove your child from the environment where these events occur for a while. It will be more easily accepted in the world of meaning.
You may not understand at first glance how much children are affected by terrorism and similar serious events. In this case, what does the child know? In order to understand what he is thinking and what he is going through inside, you must try to make him talk. The idea that they should not talk at all, keep their thoughts to themselves, or that these issues should not be discussed can both isolate them and take them away from your control.
Instead of explaining the information in detail, it is useful to explain it based on their current knowledge. Considering the child's age, interest and curiosity level, explain what the child is most curious about, but avoid unnecessary details. In the meantime, you may not be able to calmly do what we tell you as a worried, anxious and very frightened parent; In this case, you should definitely calm yourself down before talking to your child.
Try to answer the child's questions calmly and in a language he can understand. Sharing information openly can be emotionally challenging for the child.
Hiding information and imposing prohibitions is useless. Especially a child with a smartphone can access a lot of data before you do. In this case, try to direct the child's curiosity and interest in another direction. Being in a situation where you hide information or lie can harm your relationship.
People can do many things by being intimidated and without thinking enough due to this fear. You need to explain to your child the meaninglessness of his fears, instill a sense of trust in him and make him feel that he is always safe with you.
If your child has a certain routine, be careful to prevent this as much as possible. Protective suggestions such as "You will not go there", "You will not be there", "You will not be alone", "You will call me every hour" can activate the child's anxiety and disrupt his balance.
One of the points that should be taken into consideration when explaining terrorism to children is to explain to the child that those who commit violence should never be responded to by using violence in the same way. If your child already has a tendency towards violence or has a high level of stress, he or she may tend to punish mistakes by using violence or may compromise on the truth for fear of being subjected to violence.
Crisis du You can imagine what might happen in your current situation, how you can be safe if you are outside until the danger is over, what you can do together as a family, as a kind of exercise but also as a game. The child acquires the feeling of trust mostly from his family and pays the price of insecurity, if not with his life, then with the emotional tensions he will carry throughout his life.
When Should We Seek Help from an Expert?
The effects of traumatic events appear over time in both adults and children. The period in question may be weeks, months or even years. We generally understand these effects with changes in the following issues;
"Phobias, extreme reluctance, disruption of sleep routines, palpitations, shortness of breath, not being able to be alone, fear of losing someone, excessive mobility or excessive stagnation, toilet retention in children, crying out to family members." excessive adhesion”. If your child experiences several of these at the same time or experiences any of them very strongly, it means it is time to get psychological support.
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