Every mother loves her child very much, and when we talk to many mothers, they often use the phrase "If I were born again, I would be a mother again." As parents, having children actually brings with it some difficulties. What is important is the answer to the question of how much time and how we can spare time for ourselves, our family, and our children during this difficult process.
There is one very important thing that all parents and educators know: the emotional sharing between parents and children. It occupies a very important place in your life. In order for children to reach a socially competent level, families should be sensitive and attentive to their children's feelings. Children of families who can establish mutual and warm communication with their children at home are children who can help without expecting anything in return and have strong concentration skills.
What does "like" families mean?
Not aware of the intention behind their thoughts; It means the life of people whose words, eyes and behavior do not match each other.
Remember! The strength of the communication between parents and children depends on whether families can spare enough and quality time for their children. I wanted to write this article in order to clarify what exactly the concept of "Spending Quality Time" means, which has become a very important issue in raising children today.
What is emphasized by the concept of spending quality time is not "just" the time you spare for your child. Just because parents are around their children while fulfilling their other responsibilities at home does not mean that they spend quality time with them. For example, we sit with our child and watch a television program we like. Our child is with us, we touch him, we talk to him, everything looks beautiful when we look at such a picture; Unfortunately, there is neither eye contact nor sincere conversation there. We think we are spending time with our children, but there is no sharing in the environment. Of course, we can also watch television during the time we spend with our child, which we can call quality; However, it is important that it is about the child and sharing feelings and thoughts about what is watched. If it is available, we can call this time quality time.
As a result of today's sociocultural and economic needs, both mothers and fathers have to work while their children are in kindergarten. As a result, families, especially working mothers, are able to spend less time with their children than they need.
Especially in such cases, parents try to pay for the time they cannot spend with their children by giving them expensive toys/gifts or flashy trips where social sharing is very limited. They can go. This is a financial sacrifice given to the child. However, making the time spent with the child meaningful, even if it is short, is the most valuable gift to give him/her.
So how do we create quality time to spend with our children?
When structuring quality time, you should not forget that the main purpose is to understand the child, to make him feel that you care about him, and to share his feelings.
What you do while doing this depends on your social and cultural structures, your family's economic situation and, to some extent, your creativity skills.
Every child's social and emotional needs are different. In order to spend quality time, parents should first discover what their children get high satisfaction from doing. This is a time that will be good not only for your children, but also for you, the parents. In fact, it is a necessary need for parents to be children sometimes, to be pampered and to discover their fun side with their children.
To give a few examples of advice on what you can do in the time periods when you can structure the general framework with these elements;
- You can share with your child by mutually telling how your day was.
- You can do instructive but not too academic activities such as painting, solving puzzles, playing mind games, etc. with your child.
- Sad events, just like good events, are also a part of our lives. In situations where you feel sad, you can play board games with your child to help them manage their emotions and to get away from sad situations for a while and stay in the moment. Situation with your child that makes him/her upset We can identify the children, write and draw their negative emotions on paper and put them in a closed box or chest.
- Children are active. You can allocate special times for children to release their energy. By creating characters such as "Energy Monster", you can wrestle with your child and do various energetic activities in a period of half an hour. They will enjoy these activities.
- You can make theater-like animations and shares about the situation, which we call role-playing exercises at home.
- You can play exercises and games to manage and express emotions and accept emotions. .
- You can do success-oriented awareness-raising activities on a weekly basis, such as what we have done better and what we are more successful at, at mutually determined times.
- You can read publications and books that you follow and comment on together. >
- You can watch programs and movies together that are suitable for the age of your child that you have previously determined or chosen.
- You can do physical activities together outside the home.
- You can work together in areas where he has developed or wants to present his skills.
You can easily do these and many other activities with your child and make him/her feel how valuable he/she is to you.
As we mentioned before, families' opportunities, creativity and activities that their children enjoy are very important. Shares that are planned and put in effort accordingly will increase the feeling of being loved and valued in your children, and will enable your children to become social, harmonious and self-confident individuals in the future.
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