- Is there an equivalent to the concept of "ideal couple"?
There are many striking people that we encounter in the media/social media, such as those who suit each other, rich, beautiful, successful, handsome. Popular couples that combine these characteristics create the perception of the ideal couple when viewed from the outside. Apart from this, the lovers we know from movies, novels and legends also contribute to the formation of a similar dream. It is not known how ideal these lovers are, but the concept of an ideal couple can be defined as establishing and maintaining a relationship in which each of the two individuals in the relationship is happy, where they can exist individually, get satisfaction from their relationship as a couple, and do all of this without harming or being destructive in other areas.
- Can everyone have a soulmate?
Plato's "Symposium" exists according to his work. In this work, the story is as follows; Aristophanes gives a speech about the history of love. And in the speech he explains the following: "In the past, people were four-armed, four-legged, hermaphroditic and very strong creatures. Because they were self-sufficient and very strong, they committed all kinds of excesses and neglected to honor the gods. One day, the gods got very angry and divided the people in half; One side became a man, the other side became a woman. The parts that were divided into two were so afraid that they hugged each other. The gods thought that this would not be the case and scattered their bodies to different parts of the world. Since that day, the half parts have been searching for their other halves to be completed. When they found their other halves Today, soul mates are a concept used for couples who are similar to each other in many aspects and who complement each other or are in harmony in terms of sexual, spiritual and worldview.
Our search for a soul mate is because we love similarities. We are likely to love people who are similar to us in terms of attitudes, thoughts, interests, values, etc. That's why we search for our soul mate. We can also say that our soul mate is someone similar to us who have common characteristics in many respects.
- Is it right to have such expectations in bilateral relations?
It is not right to expect to find a partner who is equal and compatible in every aspect of the relationship. Since no two people are the same, we should not expect two people to be equal and compatible in every respect in relationships. The ideal person should not be perceived as someone who has exactly our own characteristics. While our personality structure is being formed, temperament, family attitudes, social environment, education, etc. There are many factors such as and this means different combinations come into play for each person. Therefore, it is not possible for a person to find someone who suits him 100%. When this expectation is too high, the disappointment we experience when differences emerge becomes greater.
- What should be understood when it comes to the right person in a relationship?
Every person has their own perception of a relationship, their expectations within the framework of this perception, and certain characteristics they want to see in the person they choose. In relationships, it can be said that the more compatible the couples' perception of the relationship and the characteristics they want to see in the other, and the more common values the couple has, the closer they are to the ideal.
- This What should you pay attention to in order to meet someone who fits your description? What are the steps we need to take to attract him into our lives?
First of all, relationship expectations can be asked. It can be learned what kind of relationship the person you meet dreams of and the compatibility of this dream with their real life can be evaluated. For example, if the relationship dream of a very busy person is to spend months on holiday with his/her lover, it should be realized that there is an inconsistency here and that it will only be experienced in the dream dimension. Realistic approaches will ensure that the foundation of the relationship is laid solidly. After this step, common pleasures can be emphasized. Doing enjoyable activities together and making shared plans with friends and social circle will strengthen the relationship. It is important to strike a balance, sometimes with friends, sometimes alone. If you create habit and familiarity in the person you choose, you will have taken the right step. Physical proximity is an important factor in building familiarity.
- In the same environment, with acquaintances Is it a good idea to meet new people in different environments instead of spending time on business?
You are likely to find a more compatible person from your common environment. However, if you have not had a partner candidate even though you have been in the same environment for a long time, you can try to enter different environments. What you need to pay attention to at this point is to be in environments where you enjoy hobbies, pleasures and artistic activities that suit your lifestyle. In this way, you will be more likely to meet people who are highly compatible with you.
- In other words, do not get stuck in the past and look for people with similar characteristics to previous relationships. Is it right to stick to what has been tried?
Mostly it is not true. If your past relationship was a satisfying one, it would still be ongoing. When it comes to relationships, there is a dynamic structure that we call the reflection of family dynamics, where our behavior, thoughts and emotions in relationships are directed from our subconscious, often of which we are not aware. For this reason, analyzing ended relationships is very useful in terms of being able to recognize our relationship dynamics and ensure new gains. Approaching new relationships with different perspectives and experiencing richer relationships, realizing the mistakes made in the past relationship and ensuring that they are not repeated in new relationships.
- Should a man or woman compromise themselves to meet the expectations of the person they consider to be their ideal partner?
It is a common behavior that people compromise themselves at the beginning of every relationship. When compromise is made, there is a risk of misrepresenting yourself to the other party. For example, if your lover wants to eat kebab every time you meet and you do this by compromising your own wishes even though you do not like kebab most of the time, your lover will think that you always want to eat kebab like him. This is an unhealthy form of compromise. However, you should give importance to your partner and your relationship, be attentive, and make mutual efforts for the continuation of the relationship, and instead of making mutual concessions, Finding options is a healthy way.
- If a person wants to start the new year with a relationship, should every means be permissible for this? Or is it best to get together with the right person at the right time?
Matching up with the right person at the right time is a dream of most people, but you can't control exactly when it will happen. It is something we cannot do. I guess what comes to mind when it comes to saying "all ways are permissible" is living in a relationship where you feel like you won't be able to get full satisfaction, and you approach it just to try it, just for the sake of having a relationship. In this case, it would not be right to say live or not live because we do not know the outcome. Just this point should not be overlooked. If this is not your ideal relationship or person, if you attribute your ideal relationship or person to someone who will never exist, you will only end up disappointed. Instead, you should try to get to know the person, understand whether you can love him or not, and see the facts.
- Well, someone came along and we started a beautiful relationship. How can we be sure whether he is the right person?
First of all, if we want to have a good relationship, a person must be able to determine within himself what his wants and needs are. Being aware of your own feelings and thoughts is the first step. A person may not always be aware of his own deep needs. A person can only convey these to the other person to the extent that he is aware of his expectations from life and the person he is in a relationship with. For this, it is very important that the bond a person establishes with himself and is open to himself. A person who is open to himself and has high awareness can understand the wants and needs of people outside himself and the boundaries between them. The next step is to discuss whether these expectations can be met by your partner, and to determine whether there is an open and correct communication channel between you. We can say that your partner is the right person if he is open to communication, development, new perspectives and is sensitive to your reasonable expectations.
- Do you have anything to add?
I wish you a happy new year where everyone who wants will have the opportunity to experience their ideal relationship.
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