Don't say a word...Don't look at my face!
Nobody will hear your voice, no one will look at you.
Whoever finds you is my enemy, he is friendly, (Faruk Nafız ÇAMLIBEL)
His phone is busy , is he chatting, did he look at the legs of that woman coming across, what is this message on his phone? Who is that stranger next to you in the photo from your school days? He never told me? Why does he reply to my messages late? Why did he say "see you later" when I called?...
According to the traditional approach in psychology, 'jealousy' is not an innate condition in human nature. On the contrary, it is something learned later. It is an emotional state that everyone has encountered many times throughout their lives. Although jealousy is generally seen as a stimulating and driving force for some, excessive jealousy can leave both the jealous person and the other person helpless. In addition, the traditional understanding in psychology connects jealousy to insecurity. Most lovers love the intensity of love. We psychologists say that extreme jealousy is a serious disorder, but flirts say it's just the spice of the game. When is jealousy salt and pepper, when is it a disease?
Those who know know, or everyone knows; Jealousy is scary. It eats away at a person's heart... Doubting someone scares you. You doubt the existence of a rival or rival and are afraid of losing him. Most of the time, you cannot confess this to him... There is a huge lump in your throat that prevents you from speaking, you feel nauseous, your mind is confused... You go back and forth between your thoughts... It is as if there are two people inside you and you cannot silence them...
In the advanced stages, you can no longer stop yourself. You start not being able to be present and phones are tapped, notebooks are rummaged through, records on the computer are read. In short, you become a spy in a way... You will be surprised at yourself... You start doing things you condemn... In fact, this common feeling of confusion felt by almost everyone can be seen as a part of human nature. Just like anger, rage, hope, sadness. This is similar to animals instinctively fighting to protect their own territory. A person also assigns something "his own" to someone else. It is because of the anxiety of not being betrayed...
Every human being has the feeling of jealousy to a greater or lesser degree. For most of us, jealousy is an emotion we feel in our pulse and breath... Those who lived that moment know that it is as if a person ran for miles... Or you are locked in a tiny room, with nothing to do. It's like being tied up... You can't breathe to the fullest... Jealousy is not a disease, on the contrary, jealousy in moderation is normal and is considered an indicator of love. Abnormal jealousy is a destructive obsession and needs to be treated. The basis of jealousy can often be fear of losing the relationship and imagining it. This is considered a problem caused by people's lack of self-confidence. In cases where jealousy becomes pathological, patients may experience great difficulties. Because excessive jealousy disrupts adaptation, leads to depression and makes one feel the feeling of inadequacy.
If jealousy is too extreme, these people are extremely proud and disagreeable. They consider themselves superior and act suspicious and anxious. They make strange meanings out of everything. Sometimes they think in such detail and create such fictions that you cannot shake the surprise of it for days... This lays the groundwork for many negative consequences. When a person wants to get rid of this situation, he must first try to find the reasons that caused it. These reasons often cannot be resolved because they remain only within the person. That's why a person should tell the other person about the things that bother him. In this way, the person may realize that what he or she believes is unreasonable.
We should not see excessive jealousy as a way of love, on the contrary, we should consider it as an element that wears out love. Of course, jealousy is not harmful when it is in moderation, but when it is exaggerated, it is the opposite of a constructive emotion such as love. If you do not want to be jealous or envied, here is an urgent prescription: Do not do anything to your loved one that you would not want done to you...
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