Adolescence is a period in which physical, psychological, mental and social changes are experienced intensely. In the process of experiencing these intense changes that will shape his personality, the adolescent receives the greatest support from his family. Parents have many duties such as enabling adolescents to reach their true potential, establishing relationships, helping them to construct options and guiding them. By adolescence, this relationship undergoes a transformation and a more egalitarian relationship emerges. This transformation sometimes creates a feeling of lack of control in parents.
For many years, the relationship between adolescents and their parents was seen as a one-way process managed by parents. However, today it has been understood that there is a mutual socialization between adolescents and their parents, and that there is a process in which parents socialize children and adolescents as well as adolescents and children socialize their parents. So what should parents pay attention to in this mutual interaction?
1. Parents should first know the characteristics of adolescence period. They should be aware of the physical, cognitive, social and psychological changes of the adolescent and the consequences of these changes.
2. Parents should be careful to stay in line with the adolescent regarding rules and boundaries. Trying to establish an overly authoritarian and cold relationship with the adolescent leads to a narrowing of his freedom space, thus reducing the sharing within the family. These routines within the family create an order that is recognized by family members and common sharing areas are created. Thus, it strengthens parent-adolescent communication. For example, the gathering of family members at mealtime can be seen as an environment where conversation with the adolescent can be facilitated and communication within the family will be strengthened.
4. While providing the standards and boundaries that the adolescent needs, they should also encourage the adolescent's independence. In adolescents as in children&nb sp; Boundaries are valuable as long as they do not restrict freedom.
5. Parents should be given a chance to express their opinions and give them a living space. Thus, while verbal interaction is ensured within the family, it is reflected to the adolescent that their opinions are given importance.
6. With the increase in cognitive skills, the adolescent questions his environment more logically than in childhood. Rather than unconditionally complying with the parents' rules, they want to know in detail why these rules were set. For this reason, parents should explain to them the boundaries they set for adolescents.
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