Identity development begins from birth. Parental behavior is the most effective factor in this regard. Educators or relatives, in short, everyone around the child, affects this situation directly or indirectly. Judging your child in a negative way ('You can't succeed. Look, he did it, you still couldn't do it.') Constantly intervening with your child or constantly warning your child in unnecessary places ('Don't do it, son/daughter,' 'You're embarrassing me, shut up.') has a negative effect on the child and the parents. returns. When the child is constantly exposed to such attitudes and behaviors, there is a high probability that he will become a shy, low-self-confidence or combative individual in the future.In fact, the foundations of self-confidence are shaped within the framework of family and social relationships from birth, and it is a very subtle point.
Childhood is a very important period for gaining self-confidence. Negative evaluations received from the child's environment are the main source of self-confidence problems for the child, and it is almost impossible to correct this situation in adulthood. When parents raise their children with concerns about their own interests, their own happiness, or what others will say, they do not allow their children to develop their own identity, which can cause them to become an individual who is oppressed around them or an obscure adult in society who cannot express their feelings clearly.
Families are the first to raise their children. He wants his children to be successful in their school lives and then to get a good job and earn a good salary. Children who grow up with low self-confidence are very likely to experience academic difficulties. Children who are constantly exposed to criticism may feel inadequate and worthless. For this reason, they may close themselves off socially and emotionally and have problems communicating. On the contrary, situations such as sudden outbursts of anger, excessive anger, and disobeying the rules may be encountered.
In this case, the most important thing parents should do is to listen to your child. Let them share their ideas with you. Observe how much he enjoys what he does, what his interests are and what he is really interested in. (Demanding things beyond the child's capacity is a big factor in stress and distress.)
Be a good role model. arrival Education starts in the family and the child first takes the mother or father as a role model.
In addition, stand behind and support their successes, no matter how big or small. There is a truth accepted by everyone that children flourish in the family. First of all, they should feel valuable next to you so that they will be more self-confident and self-believing individuals when they go out to the outside world.
Discuss the child's mistakes without getting angry, shouting or belittling. Of course, do not hesitate to express your opinion.
The main purpose of these articles is to get the balance right. It is a big mistake to ignore your child's mistakes while putting these ideas into practice. Allow them to express all their feelings and thoughts clearly, without violating the rights of others.
Every child is different. Maybe your child can be a very good musician rather than a mediocre engineer. Do not ignore your child's ideas and interests.
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