You will no longer get wet in the rain; for each of you will be a shelter for the other.
You will never be cold anymore; for each of you will be warmth to the other.
You will never feel lonely anymore; for each of you will be a companion to the other.
You are now one body; because you have only one life ahead of you.
Go home now, start the days that will witness your togetherness.
This small text above is about the marriage of a Native American tribe. It is an oath.
Marriages are established with these good intentions, hopes and trust.
Nowadays, marriage or getting married has begun to seem like a growing, costly, responsibilities-heavy, binding and restrictive institution.
This may be because we attach too much meaning to marriage due to our loosening social relations or because our expectations about spouses have increased. Perhaps it is related to a weakening of our communication skills within the family and our difficulty in coping with the resulting stress factors.
Each of us has a communication style that we have brought since childhood. Our verbal and non-verbal communication styles are the elements that make us who we are. It is understood that there are many differences in these elements during marriage
At this point, the effort to eliminate these differences is perceived as a duty from the first day. This is exactly where the mistake is. While we married our spouse because he has such characteristics, why do we now try to change him? While these differences keep the relationship colorful and dynamic, why do we try to erase them? Accepting our headlights does not mean being defeated. Accepting our differences, believing in each other, trusting each other and joining hands to walk together means creating a world full of color and innovation.
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