There are many theories about the developmental stages of children. Freud, Erikson, Bowlby, Piaget,
Maslow and Rogers are developmental period theorists. When we examine the basis of all of them, they explain that the physical development of children
developmental periods, blended with feelings of love and trust, can vary positively or negatively
and affect their personality structures in this direction
. New generation parents attach importance to supporting their children developmentally by monitoring their children's signals more consciously. However, when
their crying duration becomes longer or a reaction occurs that they have difficulty coping with, at that point
traditional grandmother's methods begin to come to the fore.
What should we do at this point? ? 'We raised you like this' guaranteed grandmother recommendations? Should we follow the books that are on the 'bestseller' list? Or are the experiences in mother blogs and friend meetings on the internet true? Perhaps the suggestion of a pedagogue from whom you have consulted sounds more logical
... In all this confusion, parents can forget to listen to the child and their own voice
. Sometimes, out of concern, they may continue a behavior that should be stopped in accordance with the child's age. For example, not being able to gain breastfeeding or toilet habits and continuing to wear diapers, not being able to fall asleep alone; rocking while standing, giving a pacifier, interfering with one's own
self-care; feeding, dressing, washing hands and mouth.
There is an age limit for the termination of many periods. However, it is also important to monitor whether the child is ready or not. For example, we know that children's urinary muscles develop at the age of 18 months.
However, this does not mean that every child can learn to control his/her urine by 18 months. The purpose of this article is to confront the delays caused by the prolongation of such situations, which are actually caused by parents
having difficulty in coping with the process. Mother or father who do not want to wake up frequently at night can postpone weaning the child from the diaper at night. Or
A parent who is obsessed with cleanliness prevents the child from eating on his own. He doesn't allow his wife to eat, he always makes her eat. Or some mothers may not be able to stand their crying and have difficulty getting them to give up the breast or pacifier.
In some cases, mothers who allow their child to breastfeed upon their request, even though they were weaned years ago, say that it is actually important to set limits for their children at this stage. They don't know that it is
. Evaluating the situation as emotional closeness is not a way of thinking we want at this stage.
The child should grow up as a self-confident individual and should not be emotionally attached to the mother
These are very important situations. For this reason, the most important factor at this point is to give the child as much opportunity as possible to the point where he/she can do it on his/her own. The greatest favor that parents can do for their children will be if they learn not to do the part that the child cannot do, but to support them in doing it.
So how do we get them to stop wearing diapers? breast? Or how will we get him to sleep on his own?
The questions are among the most sought-after answers. The temperament of each child also plays a significant role in the process. For this reason, I recommend that you decide on the path to follow, taking into account the child's character.
If you are having problems with more than one issue, it would be better to address them one by one
. The most important point is to decide on the path you will follow and continue on that path consistently
. There will be times when your child will be dissatisfied and cry. He must learn to accept them
and support him. Ultimately, he/she will leave the object that he/she loves the most, that relaxes, calms down and finds peace.
There may be times when he feels insecure. At these times, getting angry at him, punishing him, or ignoring him will not be healthy for him and may lead to other problems. Another suggestion is that if you believe that you have an insecure relationship with your child
or if you think that your child has an anxious nature, perhaps getting support from an expert at such important developmental stages
will help you overcome the problems you may encounter
It can help you more.
Remember that when everything is in order and on time, they It will be better for you
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