Relationships are a very broad concept. We are in a certain relationship with the society we live in during the day, even if we do not want to. We have a relationship with our acquaintances within a safer framework. We have a more intimate relationship with our relatives, friends and associates. As we move from distant relatives to close ones, we can say that our nuclear family is our most intimate relationship group. There are basically two individuals to form this nuclear family. Before the family you were born and raised in becomes a family, there is a phase where two individuals come together and establish a home. It is a process for these two individuals to come together and turn sincerity into official status. In this article, I will discuss the construction phase of this process.
Some feelings are exaggerated and expressed because emotions are experienced intensely at the very beginning of relationships."We were created for each other." "You are my soulmate."This includes the interest in the new and the satisfaction with this situation. It is noteworthy that there are more similar aspects rather than different ones. Even in different aspects, a state of healing is experienced by saying "opposites attract each other". In fact, this is not a relationship, but an unusual fusion. In this process of fusion, "I"s disappear at the expense of becoming "we". "We are like two halves of an apple." As time progresses, as couples begin to get used to each other, this state of madness begins to return to normal a little bit. At this point, the facts come to light. When the curtain is lifted from your eyes, it hits you like a slap in the face that the magical love scenarios created in that dream have nothing to do with reality. “He is not the person I thought he was.”
However, A love relationship is not about two people becoming one. It's not about having the same ideas. It is not a journey undertaken with the hope that people with completely different characters will become similar to each other over time. Relationship is about being able to find common ground. This is the basis of marriages. It doesn't mean loving too much and ignoring yourself and devoting everything you have to your spouse. Because everyone has a personality and personal limits that should not be forgotten.
> Of course, love can basically start a relationship, but the power of love may not be enough to continue this relationship. When that "magical great love" ends, trying to solve the lack there by looking for a new love and being in a search is the death sentence of the current relationship and is not a healthy path. The reason for this is to love the love more than the person you are in love with. Love is a state of fusion beyond empathy and sympathy. It is generally not thought that developmentally, lust can be replaced by love, and love can be replaced by love. However, as you know, not every lust turns into love, and not every love turns into love. At this point, what really matters is whether love turns into love or not. Of course, love may not be experienced with an extraordinary passion like love; However, it can offer beauties to human life that may be more meaningful than passion.
A good relationship is one that allows partners to grow and mature as individuals as well as to develop together. Failure to learn to live with differences is what ends relationships/cohabitations/marriages.
People who have the same view on the relationship support each other and continue to move on that path when they stumble while advancing on the same path. However, those who enter this path with different expectations and thoughts lose their tracks at the first crossroads. In order to build a solid foundation for relationships, your priority should be open communication.
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