Although the partner's life story in romantic relationships has affected his life, it can also affect the bond he establishes with the other party. Indirectly affected relationships can lead to various couple problems. The attachment style of the partner and our attachment style serve as a bridge in romantic relationships. Significant results were found between the bond that a person establishes with the caregiver in childhood, and the bond he establishes with his partner in adulthood. People with an insecure attachment style may prefer loneliness. Childhood traumas have a significant impact on adult romantic relationships.
Childhood Sexual Abuse and Adult Romantic Relationships
Gibson et al. Hartshorne (1996) examined the effects of childhood sexual abuse on adult social networks and loneliness. 231 female students participated in the study. It was found that female university students with a history of childhood abuse, low income, and low perceived social support had higher levels of peer rejection in adulthood. (New World, 2017). According to the research, individuals who have been exposed to sexual abuse in childhood may have a tendency to isolate themselves from others during their adulthood. Victims of sexual abuse may have acquired insecure, fearful and anxious attachment styles. They may have wanted to isolate themselves because of thoughts such as fear of harm and lack of confidence in the environment.
The Effect of Childhood Neglect and Abuse on Adult Romantic Relationships
Colman and Widom (2004) conducted a longitudinal study of the impact of abuse and neglect on interrelationships in adulthood. 19 confirmed cases of child abuse and neglect between 1967-1971; were matched with children who were not abused or neglected according to gender, age, race and approximate family class. 1.196 people (exploited and neglected = 676, control group = 520) participated in the study.
Those who did not experience abuse and neglect became the control group and these two groups were followed longitudinally until their adulthood. Between 1989 and 1995, psychiatric assessments were conducted and face-to-face interviews lasting approximately two hours, which included various standard rating scales. According to the study findings; It was determined that the rate of abandonment of their partners in adulthood of the participants with a history of abuse and neglect was two times higher than the control group, and their marriage motivation and family functionality were low. In addition, it was determined that the victims of neglect and abuse (male and female) were more likely to experience separations in emotional relationships and to end the marriage by getting divorced if they were married, compared to the control group. (Yenidunya, 2017)
The Effect of Childhood Abuse on Adult Attachment Processes
Yücel (2014), childhood abuse experiences, attachment processes in young adulthood, relationship efficacy, psychopathological symptoms, and their relationship with love attitudes. The sample of the study consisted of students continuing their education in various departments of a foundation university in Istanbul. A total of 1234 (between 20-30 years old, 176 people who reported abuse and 1058 who did not report abuse) participated in the study. It was determined that the childhood attachments of the participants in the group who reported abuse were weak attachment/non-attachment, and when the findings related to their relationship adequacy were evaluated; It is one of the findings of the research that the history of childhood abuse makes a significant difference on the relational variables in adulthood.(Yenidunya, 2017). At the same time, significant results were obtained on the effect of the attachment styles acquired during childhood traumas on adult romantic relationships. As a result of the caregiver's neglect and abuse, the child has an insecure attachment. will have a style. The insecurely attached child will follow an insecure attitude in romantic relationships. Significant results were found on attachment styles and romantic relationships. It is known that childhood traumas affect attachment styles. It has been concluded that childhood traumas pave the way for many psychological problems in adulthood.
Individuals with secure attachment style will be able to communicate in a healthy way about close relationships in adulthood.
In insecurely attached people, obsessive attachment As a result of the neglect of emotional and physical needs by the caregiver, the individual with this style could not meet the need for approval from the caregiver. It can be seen in individuals who experience childhood emotional and physical neglect. In romantic relationships, the individual may experience fear of being abandoned and alone, and they may be very demanding. Fearfully attached people, another insecure attachment style, have problems in trusting themselves and their environment. A person who has been neglected and abused in childhood may have a fearful attachment style in close relationships and may have difficulty establishing close relationships. This problem is the fear of rejection and the fear that people will harm him. Individuals with a dismissive attachment style find themselves valuable and avoid close relationships because they find their environment unworthy. The reason for this avoidance may be that he does not trust his surroundings and may be an escape to protect himself from dangers. Avoiding the need for intimacy, not meeting the needs experienced in childhood may be a reason for neglect and abuse. It can be a method to protect yourself from the environment. These results were examined by considering childhood traumas and attachment styles, romantic relationships and attachment styles, and the relationship between them was observed. In many studies, it is possible to experience many problems in adulthood due to the effects of childhood traumas on one's self. One of the most basic reasons is that the person has a problem of self-confidence and the environment. It was concluded that this sense of trust, which is based on attachment styles, has a significant relationship with attachment styles in romantic relationships. Search in various topics� The climbs have been made. Each variable was investigated separately, and the areas in which the variables affected each other were mentioned. In this respect, under the title of childhood traumas, the concepts of neglect and abuse are included. Since they are the areas that affect the self the most, more meaningful relationships may emerge with attachment styles. As a result of the research, the effect of childhood experiences on adulthood is an undeniable fact. Traumas that affect the person negatively, on the other hand, have long-term effects as a result of affecting the psychological development of the child and occurring during childhood. These effects can be observed in the close relationships of people. In this respect, the variable of romantic relationships of the person is included. As a result of the researches, it has been observed that the attachment styles of the person have a significant relationship with the childhood traumas. It was concluded that the acquired attachment style had an effect under the title of attachment problems in adult romantic relationships.
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