Anxiety shows itself every year before the school starts. School will start and a new page will open. This will create a whole new page not only in the life of the child, but also in the life of the parent. A new environment, friendships, authority elements such as teachers, school principals, assignments… The child will have to come out of a system where everything works according to its own rules and adapt to a community, when the time comes, he will not get what he wants and will have to fulfill everything expected of him. This state of uncertainty naturally creates a great deal of anxiety.
The day comes, the bell rings, and the child has to face everything. Some people run through the school gate, have no problems, and even get excited about it. Others are a little hesitant, maybe take a step or two back and cannot jump into that unknown at once. It shudders to even think that they might meet. In such a line, teachers and parents try to make the process as smooth as they can. However, the situation may be a little more complicated than it seems. Or what appears to be a problem is not the real problem, the issue is different…
Does the child have difficulty separating from the person to whom he/she is attached and therefore does not want to go to school? Or is the subject related to the school phenomenon? It is very important to distinguish these two situations well and to get information by consulting a specialist if necessary. Because there is always an invisible part of the iceberg.
School phobia/rejection is simply defined as the anxiety and fear associated with going to school. Studies have shown that about 5% of school-age children have school refusal/phobia. The child experiencing this condition has serious difficulties in going to school, has increasing severe emotional discomfort and a constant desire to stay at home with a parent. If it is a subject that has not been dealt with in time, school phobia and the anxiety it brings show itself again as many psychological disorders such as panic disorder, social phobia in later ages. Separation anxiety, on the other hand, is when the child experiences excessive anxiety when separating from the person with whom the attachment is made (usually a parent), which is developmentally inappropriate. Separation anxiety puts a lot of stress on the child. He creates the wall and tries to avoid this situation as much as he can. It is not just for school. Symptoms of separation anxiety appear all over the child's life. Wherever they are, the child refuses to separate from the person they are attached to.
Diagnosticly, most students with school phobia fall into the category of separation anxiety. In fact, they argue that the reason is also related to the extremely strong mother-child relationship. So the invisible part of the iceberg here is separation anxiety. How can a child who can't be separated from his parents throw himself into that huge pool of uncertainty alone?
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