Adolescence is considered a troublesome period for many families. After all, that childhood period in which children do everything they say and are unconditionally loyal to them is slowly coming to an end. Seeing that their authority no longer has the power it once had may create some anxiety in parents. During this period, while adolescents are trying to cope with the physical changes and identity questions they undergo, they may also think that no one, especially their parents, understands them, depending on factors such as hormonal changes and intellectual development. Especially in our country, there is also the exam stress that comes with exams such as SBS, which start at an early age. Our country is actually full of adolescents who cannot live their age as they should, and taking on this heavy responsibility for the future along with the changes I mentioned above makes our adolescents quite tired.
If you have a child who has reached adolescence, he/she no longer wants to obey the authority you exercise, independence and independence. You might be worried to see him start making demands for freedom. It is natural for you to feel helpless when you see that the discipline methods you have used in the past are no longer as effective as they used to be. Examples of conflicting issues that many parents experience with their teenage children include:
-Friendship choices,
-Wanting to spend less time with family and more time with friends,
-School / exam success,
-Desire to spend more time outside,
-Relations with the opposite sex,
-Clothing style, hair styles, (make-up style for girls),
-Harmful habits such as smoking and drinking.
As can be seen, adolescence brings with it many issues that need to be resolved. However, you can experience this period calmly and peacefully by accepting that your child is now a different and unique individual and by making some changes in your attitudes, attitudes and communication style.
Adolescence period. special communication keys
· Not the long time you spend with your child Make sure it is qualified.
· Talk to him when everything is good, not just when problems arise; try to get to know him and his inner world.
· Respect his feelings and thoughts and allow him to express them. He may be "your" child, but it is normal for him to have very different thoughts and feelings from you.
· Give your child as much initiative and freedom as possible. Let them make their own choices, especially about simpler things like hairstyles or clothing choices.
· Get to know your child's friends and find out what they do when they are together. Try not to be negligent in this regard, and remember that if your relationship with your child has a solid foundation and you already have an open and sincere communication language, it will be easy for you to obtain this information.
· Your child's friends Let them bring it to your home and try to get to know them better.
· Be a good listener and when your child tells you something, don't give him advice every time. Children, like adults, sometimes just expect someone they trust to listen to them.
· Pay attention to how they cope with the stress and anxiety caused by SBS and ÖSS exams, and do not forget to get psychological support on this issue.
· Try to resolve the problems in a democratic environment. Let your child be able to express his ideas, thoughts and feelings clearly. As a parent, express your feelings, expectations and limits of acceptance and aim to find a ground for compromise.
· Basic After taking some security measures (e.g. safe internet access and TV channel selections), respect his/her privacy, for example, do not enter his/her room suddenly.
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