The report card day that millions of students have been eagerly waiting for is coming... After a long and
challenging education period, children will go on summer vacation with their report cards
. Children's reactions to their report card grades and achievements vary from child to child
. While some children greet their report card joyfully, happily, excitedly, enthusiastically,
some children may feel sad, disappointed, fearful,
anxious, angry, and helpless. The factors that cause this differentiation may be success or failure, as well as whether the report card grade meets the child's expectations
or not. However, the most important thing is the meaning of the report card, namely
what the report card means for the child.
What does the report card mean?
Report card; It is given to students by the school administration at the end of the semester and includes information about the grades the student has received from each course, school attendance, etc. It is a document that shows. In fact,
The report card reminds the child, his family, and the teacher about what they need to work better at.
The meaning attached to the report card, apart from its main function, is;
It is a document showing that one is hard-working.
The document that proves that you are intelligent,
The document that shows that you are talented,
The document that determines your success in life,
The document that shows that you are sufficient,
< If it contains meanings such as p>Document showing that he is an exemplary child,Document showing that he is a well-behaved child,
Document that determines the future.....etc.,
This situation It may be a problem for the child. When expectations or the meaning given are not met, disappointments, sadness, anxiety, anger, low self-confidence, introversion, etc. occur. It is seen that negative emotions are experienced.
Parental attitude and the reactions of families to the child's grades and performance are important in the development of negative emotions and thoughts. Overreactions to unexpected
report card grades can cause anxiety, worry, fear and
guilt for children. Evaluating the child based on report card grades may have negative effects on his/her self-perception and damage his/her self-confidence. The higher the expectation from the report card, the greater the meaning given to the report card.
The disappointment in situations where the child is not mentioned is that great.
What Should the Family Approach Be?
Family's expectations from the child depend on the child's age and developmental level. It should be appropriate to their interests,
abilities, responsibilities and opportunities. Since blaming the child,
criticizing and comparing will make the child feel worse
the positive aspects of the child should be highlighted first.
- Families are concerned about report cards and report card grades. They should share their feelings and thoughts with their children
and support the child to express his/her feelings and thoughts
- Talk about low grades and try to determine the reason
Work should be done, the aim should be to try to raise awareness in the child.
- Positive aspects should be praised and supported.
- How to compensate for low grades should be discussed in cooperation, effectively
Solution methods should be reviewed
- Children need boundaries that will make them feel safe.
Parents should create a working plan within the limits without excessive intervention
so that the child can take their own responsibilities. It helps.
- Instead of evaluating the child's grades, his/p>
efforts throughout the semester should be emphasized.
- Instead of constantly intervening from the outside, internal
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It is important to take approaches to activate his motivation
.
- The child should not be compared to other children. Every child is unique.
- The relationship with the child should not only be based on school, course and report card success; making the child feel loved under all circumstances is very important in terms of self-confidence development
It should not be forgotten that the report card received is not the only indicator that determines the entire academic life
. Education and training is a process and there may be fluctuations from time to time in this process.
The report card received will neither be the first nor the last report card children will receive in their lives.
For this reason, the child's performance throughout the semester should be respected, not his/her grades on the report card.
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