You language means expressing our feelings/emotions by blaming the other party. You language, which is an inaccurate and ineffective form of communication; "You are always like this", "You cannot understand me", "It is always because of you", "If you had not done this, the result would not have been like this", "You are too unsympathetic", "It is not possible for you to understand", "This would not have happened if it were not for you", "You are very "You are incompetent", "You are bad", you, you, you..., in fact, you language is a communication style in which you cannot express yourself, which disturbs the other party and will not benefit you.
As long as you use this language, even if you are right, you will be in the wrong and will not be able to explain yourself correctly to the other party. In such a form of communication, the other person will feel blamed and will automatically become defensive and will never understand you, even if you are right. As long as you behave this way, you will not be expressing yourself correctly and will only be blaming the other party.
Even when you look at the picture, you will probably feel like you are being blamed (unless you have a masochistic side, of course). This is a very normal feeling. Because this action awakens in you the feelings of a child who is being scolded and makes you angry. Your language creates such an effect on the other party, and the other person feels as if he/she has been scolded, becomes angry and defensive, and becomes unable to listen to you.
So what is right?
I use language. "I Language" is used to express how the other person's behavior, what they say, what they do, what they don't do makes you feel and what they make you think. For example, instead of "You never understand me anyway", you should express only your feelings and thoughts about the current event, without making generalizations. "I feel like I'm not being understood", "I'm trying to do my best but it's like I'm not being understood", "I feel like my actions are not being noticed", "When you say that, I feel sad, I feel worthless and bad", "When you do that, I feel like you don't value me", "It's like I don't feel at all If you express your own feelings and thoughts to the other party by saying "I feel like I don't exist", you will express yourself without blaming the other party. In this case, the other person can understand you more easily. He will understand you and will make an effort to understand you without feeling the need to defend you.
The "I" language may seem to some to belittle oneself. But actually it is not like that. This is due to the error in your own personal perspective. As I use the language, you will realize that you can communicate with people more healthily over time...
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