With the shrinking world, the increasing understanding of the importance of sexual problems, the society becoming more sensitive to sexual problems, and the initiation of studies to solve the problem instead of remaining passive in the face of problems are positive developments for sexuality. Despite this, many couples are still unable to seek a solution due to sexuality being seen as a taboo, fear of being shamed, and feelings of shyness. Even couples do not share the problems they experience with each other. In our country, this process is seen as a 'gift to be enjoyed', so it is suppressed as much as possible before marriage, and after marriage, it has become less talked about and less shared due to the routine hustle and bustle of daily life. In other words, while we are experiencing sexuality, it is not experienced for pleasure, like many other things in our lives, but for the sake of living, it is so ordinary and simple that we do not get caught up in temporary pleasures and cannot see the general picture. It is experienced as a process that does nothing more than satisfying physical needs, stuck within narrow patterns. People are afraid to talk about sexuality with each other, and when they do, they worry about being misunderstood. Of course, the basis of these and many similar problems lies in faulty learning or lack of sexual knowledge. There is not yet sufficient awareness on this issue in Türkiye. In order to achieve sexual happiness, a person must first know and love his own body. A person who knows his own body, knows what he enjoys, and has positive feelings and thoughts about sexuality enjoys sexuality. Of course, someone who is filled with feelings of shame and forbidden sin and who feels guilty for their actions cannot enjoy sexuality. When I listen to many of my female clients' children, they state that they are hesitant to touch their own bodies, regardless of their education level, and that they have never touched their own bodies before marriage. How can a person be afraid of touching his own body? Of course, there are many psychopathologies underlying these, but also social and distorted religious teachings eliminate the person's sense of curiosity and cause him to become alienated from himself. When we look at women's sexuality; Women's sexuality becomes more complex as sexuality is experienced with a sense of responsibility and duty towards men. Orgasm A woman who is crushed under her imitation cannot experience and understand the spirit of sexuality, both physically and emotionally. Having an orgasm is generally perceived as ejaculation, but the two are different things. Orgasm is a 'temporary confusion, feeling of loss of control' and involuntary rhythmic vaginal contractions, which are perceived both physically and psychologically, as a result of the activation of the brain and the effect of hormonal mechanisms, as a result of various physical and psychological sexual stimuli. It can be defined as an intense ejaculation. Ejaculation can be described as physical and physical relaxation manifested by contractions experienced towards the end of sexual intercourse. Approximately, ejaculation takes 5 to 10 seconds and orgasm takes 10 to 15 seconds. Some women may lose their self-confidence as the time it takes to orgasm or ejaculate takes longer. Moreover, they consider the sex scenes they see in the movies as a standard that must be had and believe that it is necessary to have an orgasm during sexual intercourse and that the sounds they make in bed increase the intensity of the sensation experienced by the man. They feel inadequate and cause a lack of self-confidence in bed. The basis of this is the desire to satisfy the man's ego. Therefore, women are crushed under the imitation of orgasm. There may be many reasons why a woman cannot orgasm. The most common of these reasons are; Direct sexual intercourse without preparation and stimulation, the partner's inability to focus on his own pleasure in an effort to make his man happy due to premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, and his inability to enjoy sex because he sees it as a duty, and his desire to end the relationship as soon as possible because he cannot enjoy it, can be counted among the reasons for not having an orgasm. Negative feelings towards the partner, traumatic sexual experiences in the past, anxiety about getting pregnant, socio-cultural prohibitions and religious beliefs, being cheated on, alcoholism, depression, etc. Psychological and neurological disorders also prevent orgasm. While a happy sexuality makes couples more peaceful, happier and more positive towards the environment, it also bonds and integrates couples more with each other. A woman who does not experience orgasm cannot experience sexual happiness. This situation can actually be a serious source of stress because sexual happiness is not limited to the bedroom. The most active sexual organ of man is the brain. It is not impossible to achieve the sexual life you desire, you can only eliminate many problems with sexual education and replace them with pleasant moments, and this is not too late for you. A woman who does not enjoy sexuality is not a happy woman. A man who does not understand the philosophy and spirit of sexuality cannot experience sexuality neither for himself nor for his partner, because one must be a little selfish in sexuality, while trying to make the other party happy, you give up your own desires and over time, sex becomes just a duty for you. That's why you should enjoy it, life is short...
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