Children, like other individuals, are affected by the negative events they experience. But unlike adults, children; Because they do not have sufficient experience, awareness and logic, they cannot overcome the negativities they experience without adult support. In such cases, it is easier for children who receive love, attention and support from their parents to overcome the situation. Behavioral disorders in the period until the person gets used to the changing and developing situation are actually adaptation disorders. What are the so-called behavioral problems?
Thumb Sucking:
Finger sucking that continues after weaning indicates an inadequacy or lack of confidence that the child sees in himself. Thumb sucking that continues for a long time reflects more serious psychological problems.
Nail Biting:
Children who have difficulty expressing their feelings and thoughts and who grow up with prohibitions and pressures is seen. Children who are not allowed to express their anger, resentment, rage and anxiety direct their feelings of anger towards themselves in this way.
Bed Wetting:
Normally, children are young and young by the age of 2. They can hold their large toilets. Depending on certain reasons, this process may last up to 3 years. However, at the age of 4, the child can now hold his/her small and large toilet. If the child has never learned to hold the toilet, he may not be able to control his muscles due to mental retardation or another disorder. If there is no problem as a result of the tests performed, psychological reasons should be sought. If the child starts wetting again after learning to hold the toilet, psychological problems are usually observed. A changing situation, sibling jealousy, an attempt to attract attention, the death of a family member, or a disease that takes a long time to treat may cause this disorder.
Anger Explosions:
Emotion. And children whose thoughts are suppressed and who are not allowed to express their anger, mental tension and resentment can keep the anger inside them for a while. Then, they vent their anger as an explosion, using a situation or unfulfilled wishes as an excuse. During these outbursts, the child destroys himself. He throws himself on the ground, hits his head on the floor and walls, and has crying spells. Apart from this, children who are given everything they want due to wrong upbringing, children who do not obey rules, children who are overly spoiled; They may also experience tantrums when there is something they cannot get or when their wishes are not met.
Theft (Kleptomania):
Children have a self-centered structure until about the age of 5. They do not comply with their personal rights and do not know enough about the concept of property. While most children do not want to share their own toys with others, they may also want to have toys that belong to others. This is not a problem, and there is nothing surprising about it. Despite all this, parents should explain to preschool children that someone else's belongings cannot be taken without permission and must be returned to their owner. Labeling a child as a thief is not correct. Because the child is not doing this for the purpose of stealing. If the child continues to do this despite all your warnings, the child may have a trust problem, a feeling of inferiority, or a need to attract attention. That's why children try to satisfy their spiritual hunger by repeating this behavior. In such cases, it is very important to find the underlying cause. Apart from this, the child should be taught the concepts of "your" and "mine". Remember that children learn best by modeling. Therefore, in order to encourage them to behave correctly, it is necessary to be the right model for them. The child and his belongings should be respected and we should take his belongings with his permission. In this way, we teach him what he needs to do as a model.
Lying:
Since the child has not yet reached the mental maturity to distinguish between reality and unreality in the preschool period, What they say is not actually considered a lie. They can also describe their dreams or fantasies as if they were real. The purpose here is generally not to deceive you, but to attract your attention and make you care about it.
Lying is not actually in our nature. Therefore, if your child is lying, it is necessary to examine yourself, his environment or his friends.
Introversion:
Aggression in psychology The bigger the problem, the bigger the problem is introversion. Families often perceive introversion as docileness and obedience and boast about it. However, children whose justified reactions are punished, criticized unnecessarily, whose mistakes are condemned and blamed actually prefer to withdraw in order to avoid making mistakes.
If all these disorders occur after any change the child has experienced, there may be an adaptation problem. That's why we need to be patient for a while. However, if the process takes longer than necessary, this may become a problem. In such cases, expert support should be sought.
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