Today I will tell you about the difference between “nutrition” and “eating”. I can almost hear that voice coming from inside: "We are nourished by eating..." That's exactly what I'm saying. Let's see what is the difference between nutrition and eating in a relationship...
As you know, what we call nutrition; It is the behavior of taking the nutrients our body needs "completely and completely".
There are physiological needs at the first level of Maslow's famous pyramid. Eating, drinking, sheltering, sleeping and sexuality. These are our daily needs that we need to take regularly and proportionally. When any one of them is damaged, cannot be taken, or the life cycle is established by one-sided feeding (eating instead of talking and solving problems, resorting to alcohol or drugs, constantly falling asleep, constantly escaping from arguments and the environment, punishing the partner by refusing to have sex), it causes malnutrition and Unhealthy Nutrition MAKES THE Relationship SICK.
Just as when one-sided nutrition in physical nutrition causes an aggressive hunger due to blood sugar, aggressive situations arise when we eat one-sidedly in a relationship, and at this point, nutritional behavior is divided into two.
1.“Nutrition by eating yourself - Don't consume yourself”
2.“Nutrition by eating your partner - Don't consume your partner”
By eating yourself The person who is fed:
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He consumes himself.
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He punishes himself.
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He judges himself.
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He criticizes himself in a destructive, humiliating, demoralizing way.
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He cannot satisfy himself, he is always He is hungry. He does not like himself, he is not satisfied.
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The aggressor eats (usually).
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His self-confidence is injured. He says, “I have no self-confidence.”
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Talking to himself: “I'm stupid. I can't do it. I can't make it. I can't do it. "I don't deserve it."
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They are hungry because of their feelings of inadequacy and try to fill themselves with food. It is the soul that is hungry.
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He should get help from an expert on the subject.
A person who feeds by eating his partner:
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It consumes its partner.
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It consumes its partner. punishes.
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He judges his partner.
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He criticizes his partner in a destructive, humiliating, demoralizing way.
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He can never get enough of his partner. He is not satisfied, he does not like it, he is not satisfied.
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He refuses to eat (usually).
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He speaks as if he is self-confident, but he has an inflated self-confidence. There is.
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While talking to your partner; “You are stupid, you are an idiot. You can not. You can't do it. You don't deserve it.." he says.
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It makes their ego hungry due to feelings of inadequacy. He tries to get full and feel superior by eating and consuming his partner.
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He should get help from an expert on the subject.
When choosing a partner, he tries to be perfect. , when we do not eat enough, we try to change it. This time the painting says "Don't look for broccoli at the butcher..!" It looks like... He will give what he has as much as he wants to share. “Stop looking for what he doesn't have.” It is time for you to question your choices and self-deceptions. Acceptance is nice. To take responsibility and feed from yourself, not from him. Nutrition is done not by eating oneself, but by beautifying oneself.
Our soul, like our body, also needs nutrition. There are some languages used for women to feed the man and for the man to feed the woman.
For women; Healthy Nutrition for Men
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Feeling “Enough” is very important for men. Make your man feel that he is enough for you. Appreciate his achievements.
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Praise your man's performance and approve of him.
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Make him feel that you need your man's presence and what he does. Men get pleasure from meeting needs.
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Offer eroticism to your man.
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Show and tell him that your man makes you happy.
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Always open the door to your man with a smile.
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Respect your man's need to be alone.
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Respect your man's existence.
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Respect your man's family, stay away from arguments.
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Regarding your man's work. do not comment. You are not his co-worker.
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Compare your man to other people mine. Do not criticize him destructively.
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Stop complaining to third parties about issues related to him. Never make comparisons with others. Respect your man and make him feel that you are his woman. Try to communicate correctly and constructively. If you are having difficulties in your relationship, you can get support from a specialist, but hurting your man will create more trauma for you. Stay away.
For men; Healthy Nutrition for Women
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Touch your woman with love.
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Listen and Try to Understand . You don't have to approve, but listen.
(Women talk so that they can be heard. They raise their voices and repeat their complaining speeches to be heard. When you listen to her with interest, if such a situation exists between you, it will end.)
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Pay attention to the small changes in your woman, tell her that you notice this.
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Tell your woman "You are important, you are precious, you are precious" both verbally and Say it and make it feel. Ask him with what behavior he understands your love. Some women define love with help, some with hugs, some with gifts. Learn your partner's love language. (I recommend you to read the book 5 love languages)
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Nurture your woman with romance.
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Show your woman love in your bed. Desire with > . Keep the word "need" out of bed.
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Your woman should know that she is safe next to you and should not create a question mark about the stability and continuity of the relationship.
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Always be kind to your woman..
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Do not compare or criticize your woman. Tell her how you will feel better.
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Humiliating your woman will never make you happy. Try to communicate correctly and constructively. If you have difficulty in doing this, you should get help from an expert on the subject.
The question to be answered in relationships is: “Do we nourish each other? Or are we eating each other?” If you are feeding by eating each other, it is time to press the "stop" button.
Now it's your turn to take steps to improve your nutrition and quality of life...
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