The tendency towards addiction exists in every person, and this is a natural result of being socialized. There needs to be a certain balance between a person's self-sufficiency and dependence on others. If this balance shifts too much towards addiction, some problems arise. If a person is excessively dependent on another person, this indicates that he or she is avoiding taking responsibility for his or her own existence. To the extent that such a person needs another person, he also has hostile feelings towards him. Because he handed over the responsibility and destiny of his existence to another person. This is a different situation in the dependence of two people who take responsibility for themselves.
The overly dependent person is often unaware of the hostile feelings he has towards people close to him. Moreover, he believes that he loves these people, but in fact he wants to be loved without loving himself. For this reason, he tries to make them love him, or he constantly acts in line with their expectations by eliminating his own personality. He tries to convince himself and those around him that he is a "good" person; He cannot express his own wishes, nor can he oppose situations that do not suit his interests; constantly shares the opinions of people around him or listens to them without talking about himself; Although he tries not to be a burden to anyone, he rushes to help people whether it is expected of him or not. Although those around him usually refer to him as a "good person", he has difficulty defining his personality other than this characteristic. While these people, most of whom are well-behaved children of the past, distribute bribes to those around them in exchange for love, they are forced to constantly suppress the feelings of hostility created by having given up their own personalities, and they become alienated from themselves. Because a good person is the one who is good to himself as well as to those around him.
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