-A good therapist is like signposts on the road. It does not interfere with the road, direction or passenger; It points to the direction chosen by the traveler, it does not give advice! You can give tasks and assignments in line with the therapeutic purpose, by agreement…
We all love to help, we just love the pleasure of helping; The real help can begin when you start thinking about whether what we call help could harm someone else.
-It is not enough to notice the caterpillar stuck in its cocoon; It means entering a cocoon like a caterpillar and coming out as two separate butterflies. I said empathy when I was defining empathy and thinking about it. This was something I did with the awareness that there is a very important distinction between saying and doing, because it is very important for the psychologist to realize his own cocoon. This process begins with our education life and continues with therapy trainings. That's why we constantly receive training and experience in the consulting chair.
-Experience can be measured by self-awareness focus and sensitivity. It is necessary to be ready for this sensitivity, because facing it and looking in the mirror is a traumatic process. Sometimes the point we have reached may seem heavy, perhaps it may be necessary to rest or stop, because noticing is only possible when something changes in life. It is impossible to talk about noticing when nothing changes. It is important to keep track of change. When there is no change, there is an impasse. The fact that speaking is good or that medication relieves physical complaints is not enough for the long term. For this reason, a treatment process that is not accompanied by therapy is not a complete treatment process.
Just like a person gets to know another person in a journey, a person gets to know himself during the therapy process; in fact, the therapist encounters himself again and again, so therapy is a mutual process. It requires, first of all, trust. Self-disclosure is possible in a safe environment. This is valid for the therapist as well as the client.
The psychotherapist listens, however; Because the therapist is not just someone who listens; Sometimes the client does not want to talk or has too much agenda to talk about. What needs to be solved is usually solved in silence, maybe sometimes with a melody, sometimes with a family picture, while talking about the sea, the forest, or talking into an empty space...
Just as every person is unique, the therapy process is also unique to the client. If the psychotherapist; He is the one who can recognize this uniqueness and be sensitive to this uniqueness.
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