Love is a complex concept that has biological and psychological dimensions as well as emotional... We have all had an experience of love and we have all interpreted this experience in our own way. That's why love can never be fully defined. As much as love makes us happy, it can cause pain with its loss. This pain can sometimes become unbearable and make the person depressed. But why does its existence make us so happy? And why does his absence cause so much pain? The answer to this question is not unusual, in fact it is biologically in our brain, socially in our needs and psychologically in our early life experiences...
As for the biological dimension of love, that is, where it is experienced in our body; Although love is generally identified with the heart in popular language, love, like all other emotions, is experienced in the brain. Chemicals and hormones in the brain enable us to experience love. I will try to explain love simply with dopamine. Love often creates in us feelings of euphoria due to indescribable happiness. And the areas of the brain that are activated in response to these romantic feelings are largely in common with the brain areas associated with reward, desire, addiction, or dopamine. In other words, dopamine has a rewarding and “feel-good” effect. Surprisingly, the same areas are activated when cocaine and similar substances are taken.
But as I mentioned at the beginning, love is not a concept that can be explained only biologically. It is also necessary to address it socially and psychologically. At this point we can talk about the need to love and be loved. It is a justified need that humans need from birth to death. This is a wonderful medicine designed to know that you are loved by someone, even without needing it. That's why life satisfaction is much higher in bilateral relationships based on love. And when we are abandoned, being deprived of this need, that is, the loss of the feel-good effect of the dopamine system, drags the person into sadness and causes withdrawal symptoms, just like in substance addiction.
The last thing I want to talk about is, of course, birth. It is our learning process that begins. Considering that the most contact is with the caregiver, We can exaggerate the role of the lender as much as possible. The bond we establish with him and them is closely related to how we will maintain our relationships throughout our lives. The relationship patterns we form through early learning will always be with us and shape our lives unless we realize them. If the pain of love is unbearable for you, I recommend that you navigate your subconscious and get help from an expert to proceed in the right way.
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