MOVEMENT TIME FOR BABIES
One of the most difficult periods for mothers is their child's maladaptive behaviors at the age of 2.5 years. Now the mother has stopped breastfeeding her child and has taught her to walk and talk. Our child's personality is slowly starting to emerge. Now the mother begins to feel the need for more freedom. Now he has started to dream of a regular sleep, a tidy home.
But things do not go as planned.
Boom!!!
Now our baby wants to move alone. He wants to walk and play. He doesn't listen. It's a full tank of energy and it mixes and touches everything. He tries to touch the stove or lean out of the window. All of a sudden, we saw that it was inside the washing machine. Adding to all this curious behavior is hitting, even swearing, refusing to eat, bathe.
"I think I'm about to go crazy, I don't know how to cope"
I can hear you. It is a very difficult time, especially for mothers with their first child. Moreover, since you survived the life-threatening danger in the first years and got tired, you don't have the strength to go through these craziness, right? Now you feel exhausted and unsuccessful as the advice you get from your mother-in-law and mother doesn't work.
It's okay. I'm with you as a play therapist. I am hopeful that my explanations and recommendations will be useful.
First of all, our toddler and learning to talk child, when weaned from the breast, turns into a big man from being a baby attached to his mother.
Now our baby is curious about the world. , wants to act alone and is very uncomfortable with you controlling him.
What can we do for this situation, which should end at the age of 4 at the latest?
DON'T TEACH YOUR CHILD ANYTHING !
There are no rules or bans for children this age. You can't teach him the rules until he's 4 years old. All you have to do is redirect. Does she want chocolate? Draw his attention to his toys. Is it about the stove? Build him a play tent away from the stove. Is she crying? Show him the birds.
Trying to teach him the rules will only anger him. He's the only one of the rules right now and only you are destroying him from something. He understands that you are trying to rummage. His anger grows and he becomes stubborn towards you. THEN FEED HIM
For a short time, of course. If your child is persistently stubborn with you, he is angry with you for various reasons or is trying to keep the attention on you. If your child is angry with you and if he is always stubborn, he says "I am an individual, I have my own wishes and they are the opposite of your wishes". You urgently need peace. Adapt if his stubbornness disrupts your routine but doesn't have serious implications for your child's health or the layout of your home. This will put an end to the war between you. Allow a maximum of one week for this process.
MOTHER RUNING WITH FOOD IN HAND FOLLOWING THE BABY
The appearance of mothers in this period is obviously similar. There is a mother who is constantly running behind her baby and trying to feed him. Please pay attention to this matter. Never enter such an image from the very beginning. Your baby will enjoy the process in the same way that a teenager enjoys her lover's constant begging. Of course, this is not conscious, but the more you fall on it, the more you will cause your baby to reject you.
BELTS OF REVENGE
Your baby, who begged for love through tears, has now cut off from you a little bit. This is a huge achievement for him. In fact, the more complex and irregular your relationship with your baby is during the breastfeeding period, the less your baby will want to listen to you and the more stubborn he will be. > Yes, our baby who wants to be free continues to want mommy around. If you disappear, there will be panic. So, allow your baby some freedom and aggression while in a controlled environment and close by.
CONTROLLED HOME
Our child will be misbehaving during this period. So allow it. If you have washable walls, who cares if the walls are painted? If the flour jar is out of reach of children, it is not possible to have flour around it. In this context, design your home so that when your child misbehaves, he does not harm himself and incur serious expenses. of course ok Minimization of danger, not control, is a more realistic expectation.
LET YOUR BABY GROW
Sometimes mothers worry too much about their children. This is very normal. You worry that something will happen to your precious, whom you look at as your eyes, and you take place around it. But your baby is growing and the attention he is asking for is less and less. Let your baby grow. You are afraid that your baby will fall while walking, and you are constantly around him, and you lift him when he is about to fall. If he doesn't fall, he can't learn to walk. It can't fight failure if you protect it constantly. Keep your carpets soft and your windows closed. On the one hand, you read the book and on the other hand, you observe it. Remember, the problem may not be the child's stubbornness, but the mother's inability to accept that her child is growing up.
MY CHILD HIT ME
Sorry moms! I should be frank about this. Apart from simple instinctive hitting, a child's damaging of things and their environment, hitting behavior is a completely LEARNED behavior. I understand you very well, you can't stand it and you're getting out of control. Whether you hit more or less, all you get is to vent your anger and teach your child aggression. During this period, children do not understand punishment or prohibition. When you hit your child, you teach him aggression and make him sharpen a grudge. Do not hit or hit your child. Let this completely eliminate the possibility of aggression in your child.
MY FRIEND, THIS CHILD IS VERY NICE
Your child knows how to talk and understands you. Do not speak negatively about him. Do not tell him or anyone else that your child is naughty, mean, stubborn. Your child is not naughty, this is his misbehaving period.
If you talk to him in an accusatory way and get angry with him and treat him badly, you can have a naughty child forever.
YOU ARE NOT PERFECT, FORGET IT
Since you are interested enough to read this article to the end and do research on the subject on the internet, it is obvious that you put an effort into it. We may not always be the best. But if we have a general knowledge of attention and positive discipline, we can raise good children. This article is not for you to blame yourself, but to take your parenting step by step.
OUR PROBLEM CANNOT BE SOLVED WITH THESE TECHNIQUES?
This is a phrase I come across often. First of all, sometimes when the parent does not have the motivation to apply these techniques or when there are more fundamental problems affecting the family, they may fall into despair. You never know if the techniques will work for you until you try them. The important thing is not to try once, but stability. Remember, no method works all at once. I recommend that you seek expert support regarding these. You can provide healthier and permanent solutions with expert support in the following situations.
- Children with developmental or neurological disorders
- Children in families who have experienced divorce, loss
- Separated from mother/father for a while children with leftovers
- Children with anorexia or excessive appetite during breastfeeding
- Mother's starting to work
- Changing cities
- Children who challenge you from the moment they are born
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