One of the most chronic problems of our age is that people care exaggeratedly about what is thought about them.
WHY DO WE CARE SO MUCH ABOUT PEOPLE'S OPINIONS? WHY ARE WE SO AFRAID OF MAKING MISTAKES? WHAT IS THE REASON?
When we investigate the answers to these questions, we see that people basically do not give themselves the opportunity to make mistakes. We often observe that people withdraw themselves from society because they cannot tolerate making mistakes and to avoid making mistakes and being criticized. During this process, your mind: Will they like my comments? Will I give a good presentation? If they think this way about me, they struggle with questions such as "I'm doing something wrong...".
Another situation that is intertwined with the fear of making mistakes is the high standards that the person sets for himself. It further increases the pressure on the high standards that a person sets for himself within the framework of what he should do. “I must do well, I must do very well, they must criticize me”. Unfortunately, the life satisfaction of people who adopt this type of structure (people who live with shoulds) is low because they are always tied to a standard.
SO HOW CAN WE BRING A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE TO THIS SITUATION?
Let's take a cup in our hand and look at this cup and criticize it: - Small cup, - Bad cup, - Useless cup etc.. So, no matter how much we criticize the cup in our hand, does the cup lose anything? The cup is the same cup, standing before us in all its reality. Then we mix interpretations with facts. No matter how negatively other people talk or think about us, these are just comments, not the truth itself. Comments will not end as long as human beings exist, but the truth will always be there.
Well, let's consider the issue from a different angle. Do you think every comment made about us is true? Let's think about it this way. Would you sign that every decision taken by the legal system in Turkey is correct? I think I can almost hear you saying I won't throw it away. Then why do we get upset by accepting every criticism that other people make about us as true?
As a result, when we talk to older people, we always see that they have wishes. And these wishes are mostly about what they couldn't do. ir. As we get older, when we look back, people mourn more for what they couldn't do and get angry with themselves.
Mistakes are the biggest teacher for us. Please don't be afraid to make mistakes. As we make mistakes, we grow and develop, and that thing called experience becomes the sum of all these mistakes.
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