Crying is one of the ways for babies to communicate and express their needs. When a baby is hungry, sleepy, wets the bed, afraid, or experiences an uncomfortable emotion, he cries and asks for help from the adult responsible for his care. As they learn to speak over time, verbal expressions replace crying. However, crying is an emotional need for every person. Every healthy person, child or adult, needs to cry from time to time. Crying in the face of negative emotions helps protect mental health. Sometimes crying may occur without any apparent reason. Even children of the best parents can cry for no apparent reason. It should be known that letting tears flow is more important than knowing the reason for crying. Because crying is the most harmless way to get rid of negative emotions. Therefore, providing an accepting environment that allows tears to flow freely is an important requirement for emotional development to progress healthily.
Another emotional reaction of children to negative life events is These are tantrums that include intense crying and anger. The child tries to express the discomfort he feels by crying and shouting and quickly moving his arms and legs in the face of annoying situations. Although his behavior includes anger, he does not harm himself or anything else during his tantrum. When he has the opportunity to express his emotions freely, after a while his extreme reactions decrease, he calms down and he feels good. Anger tantrums accompanied by tears that do not involve harmful behavior are indicative of a sincere discharge of anger.
However, if there are destructive behaviors that accompany these seizures, and if he harms himself, other people, or the things around him when he gets angry, the situation he is in is no longer anger. It is not a seizure. This situation is described as “destructive expression”. Destructive expression is a distorted state of anger discharge.
Sincere anger discharge occurs when the child feels the confidence to express the underlying emotions, resolves the painful emotions, and then the child feels happy and relaxed. The intervention at such a moment made your emotions overwhelming. causes it to collapse. Distorted anger discharge occurs when the child does not feel confident to express the underlying emotions and the problems are not resolved. Afterwards, the child continues to feel hurt and tense.
During the destructive expressive seizure, parents should adopt an attitude that prevents violence but accept the tears. Determined and compassionate interventions can provide a sincere release of emotions.
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