In these days when we are tense and exposed to high stress, our psychology is an issue that we do not pay much attention to, but whose importance cannot be denied. Terrorist acts, violent incidents, outbursts of anger within society and murder news that we read in newspaper headlines almost every day. How do you wonder how all of this affects us, people who are part of a social life? How many of us think about what we feel and try to express what our emotions are? Are we becoming numb?
Human beings are in absolute harmony with their environment and try to adapt to the environment and events in which they live so that they can survive. He doesn't do this consciously. However, this lack of awareness does not mean that the process will be easy. Let's think about it this way: How much do you enjoy the life you have? When you think about your future, do you feel sad or filled with hopeful and positive emotions? We actually focused on 2 simple basic questions, but it is also possible to expand this. For example, have the activities you do started to seem boring to you, do you feel like you are drowning in a monotonous life, do your moods change frequently during the day, and do the things you enjoy now seem unnecessary or temporary happiness? If you receive answers that do not satisfy you to all these questions, there is nothing to be afraid of. Because the situation most people experience these days is very similar. The reason for this is that we are exposed to intense daily stress due to external factors and this stress brings us closer to depression or makes us depressed. The terror news, martyrs, rape and murder news we read can have a deep impact on us. We get upset, we want to react, we get angry, we get angry, but all of these emotions are short-lived. All of these have become automatic; Our anger, sadness, every emotion is experienced because it needs to be experienced and then it is suppressed by our brain. We can think of this as the popular expression of "putting it in". Repression is a defense mechanism we have unconsciously developed to combat emotions and events that we cannot cope with. So, what do we actually do by suppressing it, that is, putting it inside ourselves? Is this beneficial for us?
Who waits? We can say yes for all of these, but if the "suppression" process occurs for every negative emotion and event, this may push the person into what we call learned helplessness. We can simply think of learned helplessness without going into its literal meaning as follows: you are in a room divided into two by a glass, and when you try to move to the other side of the room, you constantly hit the glass and cannot get in. Even if that glass is removed after a while, you do not realize that there is no glass there because you are constantly hitting it, and you move to the other side of the room. You don't even try to get over it, you generalize the negativity you've experienced and give up even trying. So why is learned helplessness so important? The reason for this is that the more you are exposed to learned helplessness, the higher your risk of falling into depression. We read, we get sad, we get angry, but we suppress it and return to our routine life, thinking that nothing will change. We don't do anything to change it. We wake up unhappy in the morning, go to work or school unhappy, and we infect our entire lives with this cycle of unhappiness. Little things do not make us happy.
It is a fact that we, psychologists, have accepted for years that people experience emotional changes during seasonal transitions and become more fragile and depressed during the adaptation process. But now we seriously feel not only seasonal transitions, but also experiential transitions. Political agenda, social agenda and issues seem to seriously affect our psychology first hand. In our country, which has had a particularly active and changing agenda in the last few years, while we have not yet been able to keep up with the current problem, the agenda is changing and we are exposed to a new problem. However, we begin to experience different emotions that are unstable and do not satisfy us. Of course, there are things we can do to deal with this situation. First of all, we need to be aware of and accept the situation we live in, we need to establish within ourselves the idea of taking responsibility instead of the idea of "this is how my life is". Research has proven that regular exercise and meditation are effective in depression and stress. Although it is not a heavy exercise program, daily and regular brisk walks and exercise activities will make you feel better and fitter. It will make you feel better and support you with positive emotions and thoughts. Find an activity you like and try to devote a certain amount of time a day to this activity, even if it is not too long. This activity should be something that you must find and adopt yourself. You can do breathing exercises during the day when you feel very angry and unhappy. Counting your breaths and breathing deeply and slowly will help you listen to yourself and relax. If, despite all this, you still experience the feelings and situations I mentioned seriously, you should definitely seek professional help. We should not forget that just as we go to the doctor when our throat hurts, getting psychological support is just as natural and necessary. That's why it would be pointless and unnecessary to torture yourself by getting lost in the thought that it will pass anyway or "this is how my life is".
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