Marriage Therapy is Like Tango with a Couple

Today, when one of the couples who still have problems approaching marriage therapy says, "I think we should go to a Marriage Therapy," the other one objects by saying, "We haven't been able to solve our problem in so long, how can someone who doesn't know us at all solve it? How can he understand us?"

However, Marriage Therapy;

Starts with discovering the invisible part of the iceberg;

• What is the real problem that is covered up under the current problem in marriage?
• What is the relationship network between the couple with their families, social conditions and environment?
• What is the contribution of other family members, family roots or social values ​​to the problems experienced by the spouses?
• The basis of the behavioral problems experienced? We look for answers to questions such as "what is it? What does this behavior serve? What is the product of thought?"

What does the past life story tell us? We try to find these, for example;

What are unresolved childhood traumas? (Which traumas are the product of feelings of abandonment, rejection, neglect, worthlessness, unlovedness)

What feelings do unresolved childhood traumas cause them to experience? (What defense mechanisms does he use, such as not being able to establish closeness, not being able to connect, introjecting, blaming, dividing?)

How do things that were not solved in childhood come up again and again and are experienced as if they were a real problem of today?

 

While searching for answers to all these questions, individual healing is achieved and the wounds of the marriage are tried to be healed. Marriage Therapy is like tango with a couple; it helps them discover and solve the problems they experience without stepping on each other's toes.

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