Hello, in this article, we will discuss the subject of gifts, which has an important place in our culture. What does gift mean, gift is a word of Arabic origin and has two basic meanings; The first meaning is gift; It is called a product given to make a loved one happy. For example, a book or food for a friend you are visiting. Gifts that strengthen the bond between people and provide assistance can be given at any time, as well as on special occasions such as holidays, weddings and birthdays. At the same time, circumcision is accepted in Islam and it is believed that it gives rewards.
The second meaning is; wage, price, value. For example; "The gift of this tablecloth is xx lira." As individuals living in society, we also receive and give gifts from time to time. So, why do we give and receive the gift we give? Do we buy and give gifts as a sign of love, as a social support, or do we give gifts as a reward for a service rendered?
In the first example, let's take the example of a father who says, “I promised my child, if he gets a commendation at the end of the year, I will get the phone he wants”.
attached to a condition, will be given to the person if the condition of obtaining a certificate of appreciation is fulfilled. I wonder if the child who receives this gift will see himself as loved and valuable and be happy?
Probably not much. Because when he thinks about it, he will be well aware that the gift is not for him, but for his school success, and that if he does not get the certificate of appreciation, that gift will not come. In short, himself; a family member may feel valued not as a child, but as someone who brings a certificate of appreciation. Here, the gift here will be considered as an exchange made instead of paying for a service or goods, and may not have a positive effect on the bond of love within the family.
I saw a nice t-shirt in the window, I thought it would suit my daughter, she passed the exam badly, buy it immediately for morale I was.” Let a father say.
This is a completely unconditional, unexpected gift. It should not be difficult to guess how happy a person can be to receive a gift from the people close to him at a time when he does not expect it, even when he expects criticism or punishment. Because an unconditional gift, received without expecting anything in return, has only one meaning; “You are valuable to us, you are important, we are with you in all circumstances, your supporter, we love you”. For this reason, we need to take care that the gifts you receive for your relatives are not tied to a condition or rule. Because a conditional gift has functional consequences such as a fee or a bribe.
When Should We Receive a Gift?
is another important factor. Do you know why people enjoy hobbies like fishing and hunting for mushrooms? Because in these hobbies there is an event that we call “irregular (unexpected-surprise) reinforcement”? You can fish or find mushrooms when you least expect it. This attracts people a lot. That's why, in your family and close social relationships, except for special occasions such as birthdays, wedding anniversary, unexpected random times, even when the people on your eyebrow feel bad, a small gift you will give them will strengthen your ties with that person. To summarize, if the gift is not a wage or a bribe, let's receive gifts unconditionally, regardless of any condition or time frame. Let's receive gifts unconditionally so that we can always successfully convey the message "I love you" to them under all circumstances.
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