Love is such a feeling; Dozens of poems have been written and songs have been composed about it for centuries, but even all that has been done has often been insufficient to express that feeling. Sometimes no words were enough to express those feelings. There are no loves in human history that are strong enough to capture a person's entire being.
If people were given the right to wish; After health, money and peace, love would perhaps be the most desired thing. So much so that, when blowing out candles on birthdays, a happy love is wished for, and a happy relationship is requested in wishes or votive places, depending on the person's belief. Although it varies from culture to culture and from person to person, love, in its most general terms, is defined as affection for a person and the feeling of attachment to that person. Platonic love, on the other hand, is a one-sided, unrequited love.
Platonic love, which is common especially in adolescence, is when the adolescent, who has just discovered his feelings, has a very intense admiration for a famous, popular person, knows every detail about the artist, and knows the person he admires. It elevates the child in his/her eyes, resulting in the development of belonging and thus feeling valuable.
Contrary to popular belief, platonic love is not only seen during adolescence. It is also seen frequently in adult life.
What is this platonic love?
Why does one fall for unrequited love?
Why can't one dare to say it or end this feeling? Is it intentional wishful thinking or is it an obsessive state of emotions...
People who experience platonic love gain hope by making sense of every action of the person they love and feeling loved. He puts his platonic love in a very valuable place in his eyes and it is simply the embodiment of perfection for the person and they experience this feeling very intensely. For the person experiencing platonic love; Only the person he loves can make him happy in life, everything is beautiful with him, without him, life has no meaning... When a person cannot get his feelings reciprocated, he tends to become pessimistic and depressed. If this obsession becomes advanced, he will engage in destructive actions to harm his platonic love, such as stalking, harming, harassing, and raping the person he is in love with; Self-destructive actions such as harming oneself, using alcohol and substances to alleviate pain, and committing suicide may also be observed.
Is the person actually in love with the person he cannot meet, or is the meaning he attributes to that person too much? The answer to this question is very important what the person's meaning is to love and what his expectations are about love. Because the person who experiences platonic love is actually in love with his dreams. He attributes the person he created in his dreams to the body in front of him and believes that he is as he imagines him to be. Thus, the person believes what he wants to see or believe, not what actually happens. After a while, the lack of reciprocation of feelings drives the person to despair.
While some platonic loves can turn into real love, some people may leave it at the level of platonic love instead of turning it into real love. There are many reasons for this; Some of these reasons include the love of one's dreams not coming true, the anxiety of receiving a rejection response from the person, and the thought that the person will not like them and criticize them. A person must first clarify whether the love he or she experiences is likely to come true. The first step for this is to know what one wants and believe in oneself; The second step is to communicate with his platonic love in order to find out whether this love is reciprocated. In this process, they will either learn from the other party that their feelings are mutual and start a relationship, or they will respect the negative response of the other party and platonic love will remain as admiration and admiration within the framework of respect.
Expected in people who experience platonic love; It is considered normal to have a feeling of liking for a while and then, over time, this feeling ends and does not disrupt the person's social harmony. On the contrary, in cases where the person's harmony with the real world begins to deteriorate or the person who is at the center of his/her life cannot realize his/her dreams and develops anger, rage and obsession because his/her feelings cannot be reciprocated, the person must seek support from an expert.
Personal predispositions and personality style. It is the determinant of platonic love. Usually
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People who did not receive enough attention and love from their caregivers during infancy and childhood and could not form a secure bond
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Childhood traumas
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He is physically deficient Those who think they are k
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Those who have feelings of inadequacy
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Having trouble establishing social relationships
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Addicted people are more likely to experience platonic love.
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