Social media have made the lives of many of us louder and more visible. As social media became more prevalent in our lives, we experienced violations in our private boundaries, some of our attitudes and behaviors, and we were faced with normalizing these violations for both ourselves and others. While we committed these privacy violations of our own free will, these violations brought with them insensitivity.
The desire to be noticed in social media, the desire to be seen, and the need to exist through those media inevitably returned to our lives as some negativities. It seems like we have forgotten our inner sources of happiness… How many followers do I have, how many likes have I received, etc. When situations became the center of life, there was no longer any social privacy, private life privacy, relationship privacy, or information privacy. Trying to exist by taking a place in someone else's life or by receiving applause and likes can cause deep wounds in a person's soul in the long run. In fact, while internal sources of happiness should be more prominent in a person's life, these and similar external sources of happiness began to invade a person's life. It should not be forgotten that life invaded by social media begins to tire the soul. In such situations, we must reckon with ourselves by raising the level of our inner voice. Of course, everyone wants to be loved and admired. What needs to be taken into consideration here are the situations in which the balance begins to slip away, the presence of thoughts that begin to sink into the mind like a splinter, and the mind and fingers being constantly on social media. We need to remember that we do not have long enough to always seek praise and appreciation.
Not social media; Social relationships established in social environments should be our priority. I should not forget that staying in a relationship, how important relationships are, and continuing to exist cannot only be self-centered, that this is an illusion, and that I will be stronger when I am in a relationship. Living "me"-centered brings with it completely different problems. That's why mind and life must be moved from the "I" climate to the "we climate". At this point, we must be able to incorporate social and intimate boundaries into our lives. Think about how much fun it would be if the big city was only yours but there were no people and no life in it. Would it be useful or meaningful?
Communication means being in a relationship. Human is a social entity; It grows, develops and gains meaning through a network of relationships. A person makes his self and his life stronger and more meaningful with the presence of others he interacts with. The social environments an individual enters and the relationships established in these environments are important and improving in terms of psychological capital.
We have now better understood the value of some of our habits, which are restricted in our daily lives during the pandemic process we are in, and how they strengthen our psychological resilience. Strangely enough, people understand better the value of what they have when they are about to lose it or when they lose it. For example, our simple walks, the coffee we drink with our loved ones, being able to hug them freely and chat, staying in touch, etc. We understood very well what great blessings these situations are. This process was a time during which people could do their inner accounting very easily. As humanity, we are going through difficult but valuable times where we can control ourselves in our pros and cons, relationship quality, how we approach people, our compassion and many other areas.
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