The missing relative who lost a relative starts to remember positive and negative memories about the deceased person
. When negative memories come to mind, he feels guilty towards the deceased. In the grieving process
the person asks himself some existential questions; What is the meaning of life? How does death affect my life and
relationships? Most of the relatives of the disappeared try to mourn in accordance with the religion of Islam,
funeral ceremonies of the deceased are held, prayers and the Qur'an are read, people come to the house of condolence,
bring food, recite the mawlid at the forty-fifty-two, visit the grave. Rituals such as these
recommended by our religion have a positive
effect on people's mourning process. Visitors to the relatives of the missing "How did he die?" they ask, and this question is often asked to the loved one
. By answering this question over and over again, the person
realizes better the fact that the loved one has died.
Some people cannot grieve because they have escaped pain. They unnecessarily expend a great deal of energy in suppressing the painful feelings that come with loss
. A person who cannot suppress the painful feelings he/she is experiencing by pushing it to his/her subconscious mind, can put the relationship representing the person in place of the person who died as a solution to cope with these feelings. > tries to simulate and transform. This situation causes various emotional
distresses in the deceased person and the relationship ceases to be healthy. However, since emotions are not suppressed, in the long run the person feels more comfortable
, tries to live every moment with gratitude, accepts the fact of death, can reconnect to life again, and can improve himself spiritually.
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