At the beginning of the year, most of us, without exception, have expectations about life becoming different and changing. Do you remember what you expected from 2019? For those who remember, I ask them to think about whether these things happened or not. How happy it is if something happens in them! However, I wonder why those things did not come true?
Human is undoubtedly a hopeful being. This is not actually bad. What is important is what we hope for and in what way. My answer to the title of my article will actually be divided into two. My general observation is that individuals expect serious money on a financial basis. In a spiritual sense, they expect ATTENTION, support and acceptance just as intensely as they expect money. When we look at these expectations, I cannot help but say that they have a very important place in human existence. But the part that makes the expectation strange is that; To have these things expected by others without much effort and constantly. Here, I think we need to look back at ourselves and ask how much effort we have put in and whether we can find a solution other than waiting from someone else. If we have tried "enough" to make our expectations come true, we will feel pleasure no matter what the outcome is and our individuality will be positively affected. Even situations that seem like losses in the short term will indicate gain in the medium and long term.
When the article is about our expectations, especially for years. I cannot help but mention the astrology interpretations that made the people I encountered with great amazement and astonishment expectant. Astrology is not a branch of science. Not to be confused with astronomy. Astronomy is a branch of science and provides us with scientific data.
These do not have a direct connection with human life. Predicting how your life will go according to your zodiac sign (regardless of 1 day, 1 week, 1 year) leads you to empty expectations that have no basis. Failure to realize people's expectations has negative effects, sometimes causing destruction. Hope is a necessity, it has a positive motivating effect. However, not getting expectations from astrology etc. will make life more livable.
We are mental health professionals (psychologists, psychiatrists, psychological counsellors). As şmans, we take care and strive not to sell dreams to people. We do not try to heal people's wounds and pain by comparing them with other wounds or giving examples of other pain. For example; We aim to completely review the relationship process of a person who expects his partner to surprise him and expresses that he wants to receive more attention. In this way, we can aim to better understand the personality traits and behavioral patterns of the other person and adjust their expectations towards the process. At the same time, the person may also discover that his expectations are not only about the other party. Likewise, to a person we worked with about this situation, we said, "Oh! What troubles are there in life? Is yours a trouble too? Look at those who are in the hospital. Think of those who do not have a girlfriend. At least you are in a better situation. Don't worry about it." We never make similar statements.
Everyone's psychological resilience is different. The situations and stories that affect everyone are different. For this reason, we research what is rational with our client. When we see that people have expectations that hurt, traumatize and anger them, we aim to make our clients realize this. This month, I aimed to remind you, our valued readers, of your New Year's expectations in the first half of the year, in the hope of raising awareness.
I hope we can realize not only New Year's Eve, but also our general life expectations by making the necessary effort, of course, it is in our hands to make it happen. If…
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