What is Vaginismus?
It is the involuntary contraction of the muscles at the entrance of the vagina, which prevents these muscles from allowing sexual intercourse.
The pelvic muscles surrounding the entrance of the vagina contract involuntarily, causing pain during sexual intercourse. It is the reason why sexual intercourse does not occur and/or for this reason sexual intercourse does not occur.
As a result of some subconscious fears and misinformation about sexual intercourse, the pelvic muscles in the outer 1/3 of the vaginal canal, as if the body "self" It contracts involuntarily (that is, outside the person's own control) as a result of the "protection mechanism". Thus, sexual intercourse, that is, "penetration", becomes impossible.
The failure of a married couple in love with each other in their first attempt at sexual intercourse shatters their dreams. In couples who do not experience any problems other than sexuality, everything is going well, there is no problem even in foreplay, and when the relationship reaches the intercourse dimension, a "panic attack-like situation" develops. The woman suddenly stiffens herself, closes her legs, pushes her husband, pulls herself back and raises her hips into the air. The wetness in the vagina decreases, turns into dryness, and sexual desire decreases over time. When the moment of sexual intercourse comes, the vagina becomes a wall of flesh.
This panic situation that occurs in vaginismus depends on misinformation and prejudices in the subconscious. The muscles suddenly and automatically close themselves. In this panic attack-like situation, after the heartbeat accelerates, breathlessness, fear and excitement, the woman tightens and tightens herself as much as possible and in this way it is not possible for the penis to enter. In this case, sometimes there may be pain, and sometimes there is only fear. Afterwards, the woman who does not want the relationship to continue closes her legs tightly and rejects her partner by pushing him, thus ending the relationship.
In women with vaginismus problems, the body and mind never have a common and positive experience of sexual intercourse. These negative sexual messages in women are very diverse, and these messages trigger the muscles in the vagina (especially the PC muscle) to contract with an involuntary (reflex) response.
As a result of contractions and pain expectations, sexual intercourse becomes impossible
Vaginismus becomes a sexual problem over time. It can turn into a "family problem" and grow like an avalanche, causing many different problems that could not have been predicted before. That's why it is important to get professional support as soon as possible.
Do not postpone life.
Vaginismus therapy aims to eliminate involuntary contractions by controlling the functioning of the pelvic muscles. The basic element in therapy is to rebuild muscle memory and learn to control the pelvic muscles. This is possible with cognitive and behavioral therapies.
Vaginismus is a problem of postponement and avoidance...
According to one definition, vaginismus It is also described as “procrastination and avoidance problem”. Some couples ignore these problems for years, cover them up, and avoid getting therapy with various excuses instead of solving the problem as soon as possible.
There are many reasons for this, such as school, workload, making a career, being appointed, and using financial resources in other ways. It is among the reasons for unnecessarily postponing therapy. However, this problem, which has not been resolved in time, becomes a burden on the shoulders and gets worse every day, negatively affecting both the social and business lives of couples.
Vaginismus is a problem that wears out couples by lasting for years without professional support. The solution is only possible with sexual therapies.
The first thing couples with vaginismus problems should do is accept their problems and take action to get support as soon as possible.
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