There are certain behavioral attitudes that individuals with narcissistic personality disorder frequently apply. These behaviors, which force those living with these personalities and cause them to develop many problems, are repeated in patterns. We can say that these attitudes arising from the defense mechanisms of narcissistic individuals are made unconsciously. I've touched on some of them in this article, good read.
Narcissistic individuals often use blame behavior. The other person is wrong and incomplete. They tend to beat the grape grower rather than eat grapes. The accusations can turn into an attack on the personality we call ad hominem. They use sentences such as "you are like this", "you are already..." and they do not think about whether the other person gets hurt or sad. The projection defense mechanism is the state of attributing a situation in oneself to the other person. For example, the narcissist who accuses his partner of treason is actually cheating himself, and his insecure attitudes towards his partner are actually due to the fact that he is an unreliable person. There is a mindset of "If I'm doing it, he's doing it".
Righteousness schemes have developed. It is important for them not to be happy but to be right. Long explanations, persuasion efforts, arguments and endless debates... They do get into these dialogues and arguments, even if they don't get any results in the end. Their egos are fragile, they try to protect this fragile ego tightly. That's why they look proud, snooty, cool, dignified. But deep down they are weak and very afraid of being seen.
Narcissists are adept at ruining happy moments. They can disperse the happy and peaceful atmosphere for reasons that will not fill the fig seed when they have no place. For this reason, their relatives (especially spouses and children) can wait restless and alert, not knowing when and where a problem will arise. They may not be able to bear the happiness of others when they are not happy.
Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder often do not volunteer to receive therapy. They come with the initiative or need of their relatives. They think that there is no problem in themselves, they emphasize that they are not understood by those around them. Those who come to psychotherapy are often narcissistic abusers. are the relatives who are exposed to the male. Romantic partners and spouses are the ones who have the biggest problems. The most common symptoms I encounter in these people are uneasiness, nervousness, stress, anxiety, fear, panic, unhappiness, alienation from oneself, feeling powerless, questioning their mental health and memory.
Narcissistic individuals are manipulative. They resort to many manipulations such as using, exploiting, humiliating and devaluing others. When these are systematic, the results are not encouraging for those who are exposed.
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