Both the trust we feel in our relationships with others and the positive inner voice we create in our relationships with ourselves are directly related to the attitude of those who meet our basic needs during infancy and the relationship they establish with us. Self-confidence means that a child feels good as a result of developing good feelings towards himself. In other words, it means that he is happy to be himself and as a result, he is at peace with himself and his environment. The self-confidence of the child who is shown self-confidence develops. Moreover, he exerts strength and effort to reinforce the hopes placed on himself and to make use of the opportunities given. Therefore, when talking to children, we must convincingly state that we trust them and that their choice is valuable to us.
The "basic sense of trust", which is formed by meeting the needs in a timely and complete manner during childhood, is acquired during the socialization process. It transforms into a "perception of self" through experiences and experiences, creating the feeling of self-confidence within us. For this reason, the role of parents who provide care for the child from infancy and have a direct relationship with him, caregivers, and then teachers and friends during the school period is very important in his/her self-confidence development.
Raising self-confident children is our wish.
GENERAL CHARACTERISTICS OF SELF-CONFIDENT CHILDREN:
what they can and cannot do,
with their positive and negative emotions,
with their abilities, fears,
can accept himself naturally,
is at peace with himself,
accepts his feelings,
is more courageous,
is naturally honest ,
does not need lies and secrecy,
can develop a sense of empathy,
communicates well with others,
values himself,
He is happy to be himself,
He feels that he is valuable even when he fails,
He is motivated, energetic, lively,
He believes that he will realize himself.
He feels valuable even when he fails. p>
WHAT CAN PARENTS AND FATHERS DO TO IMPROVE THE CHILD'S SELF-CONFIDENCE?
• Parents' expectations from their child should be realistic, appropriate to his child's development level and abilities.
• Eat Their successes and qualifications should be emphasized rather than their shortcomings.
• Even if the work they want to accomplish does not result exactly as desired, their efforts should be appreciated by evaluating the process. Encouraging a child's parents with words such as "I am proud of your efforts to learn", "...your effort in this regard makes me very happy" will motivate the child to make more effort and develop his fighting power.
• The child should be given the opportunity to do his own work, and the work he can do on his own should not be done by an adult. If we have a prediction about how the child will handle a responsibility, it is important not to show it to the child so that the child does not start working with prejudice.
• The problems he experiences and encounters should not be solved on his behalf, he should be helped to find a solution. , should be made to think about alternative solutions.
• He/she should be motivated, supported and a model should be created to finish what he/she has started.
Teach your child to express himself/herself and express his/her wishes effectively. Teach how to express it. If he improves himself in this regard, he will have more self-confidence in society.
• When the child thinks that he has been treated unfairly, he should be allowed to express this, and he should be given the opportunity to realize the reality of the situation through questions.
• He should be made to take responsibility for certain issues at home regularly and it should be monitored whether he fulfills his responsibilities.
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