Sexual dysfunctions, or more accurately, sexual adaptation problems, observed in women are extremely common issues. There are 4 main problems.
1-Sexual Reluctance
2-Sexual Arousal Disorders (vaginal dryness)
3-Sexual Satisfaction Problems (problem of not being able to orgasm) )
4-Sexual Pain Disorders (dyspareunia, vaginismus)
Research conducted in our country shows that 40% of women have sexual reluctance, 30% have sexual arousal and It shows that 35% have problems with not having an orgasm. General symptoms are experienced as follows:
The woman has no interest in sex, she is not aroused during sexual activity, she does not feel anything, the vagina remains dry, the clitoris does not swell, and pain is felt during intercourse. One or more of these problems can be seen simultaneously in women, and the source of the problems is mostly psychogenic unless proven otherwise. Side symptoms observed secondary to the problem are; It can be in the form of anger (at oneself or one's partner), shame, anxiety and guilt. There is no specific laboratory test for any of these problems. Only if there is a hormonal deficiency or if it is suspected, estrogen and testosterone blood levels can be checked. Sometimes anemia can also cause increased sexual adaptation problems. If there is anemia, it is recommended to correct it.
SOCIAL DYNAMICS:
Unfortunately, society's view of female sexuality is often two-faced. Most men and women are aware that sexuality is important for a marriage, but for some reason there is an entrenched image that women who can enjoy sex are "comfortable women with low moral values". While the majority of men act with the motivation of satisfying their wives, they also choose to suppress their wives' femininity. A woman is not asked to be sexually active in bed, to take initiative, or to be demanding, but she is expected to be satisfied. Of course, a healthy sexual life cannot emerge from this contradictory structure. Generally, women are not approached equally and with the same moral norms regarding sexuality, as in many other issues. While femininity is constantly belittled (sometimes by women), femininity is only The role of motherhood is sanctified. Therefore, most young girls grow old under the influence of social sexual myths that say sexuality is something shameful, dirty, painful and painful. It is a woman's duty to make peace with something you despise so much! It is not that easy to do what is called properly.
BEING A WOMAN:
It is not possible to be a woman or a man alone. Having sex, ejaculating and reaching orgasm is a behavior that can be learned and improved. A woman can only fully reach true femininity together with her husband and with his support. The marriages of women who achieve this are much happier and more peaceful; There is no doubt that the children he raises are much healthier and more successful. The conditions and stages of being a woman are as follows. To be at peace with one's own body, to get rid of symbolic penis images (exclusion of masculine attitudes), if any, to experience clitoral ejaculation, to experience ejaculation through vaginal intercourse, and to reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse. Reaching this level is a process that can take a woman approximately 3 years in a well-run marriage.
MAIN PREPARED BY WOMEN'S SEXUAL ADJUSTMENT PROBLEMS:
Women not knowing their own body, Lack of anatomical and physiological knowledge about sex.
Sexual myths embedded in the subconscious, erroneous and frightening thoughts about sexuality.
Growing up in very conservative environments
Femininity is constantly Growing up in family environments where they are humiliated (femininity is bad!)
Growing up in environments with broken family relationships (emotions and sexuality are bad!)
Self-confidence and women not being at peace with their body
Inadequate sexual experience (even if married)
Lacking psychosexual skills or sexual problems in the partner
Extreme perfectionist and meticulous personality traits
Intrapsychic, that is, in one's own inner world unconscious conflicts
Traumatic bad sexual intercourse experiences, harassment
Unhealthy or irregular lifestyles
WHAT IS THE CLITORIS?
>The clitoris is one of the rarest and least explored organs of the female body. Unlike all other organs, it has no other functions other than the function of receiving and giving pleasure. He doesn't have a house. Although only the head part of the clitoris can be seen from outside the body, it is actually a large, four-armed structure that is located deeper and can fill with blood and swell. It has been determined that it contains 4 times more nerve cells than the penis. The clitoris is an essential organ for female orgasm. Studies have shown that only 8% of women can orgasm only through vaginal penetration, without direct clitoral stimulation. Even here, the clitoris can be indirectly stimulated by internal pressure. In other words, arousal and orgasm without the clitoris are not possible for a woman. Teaching this organ and its function to a woman is one of the main elements of sexual therapy.
WHAT IS THE G SPOT?
Located in the upper front part, 3-4 cm inside the vagina, It is a region with unclear boundaries where intense stimulation is experienced. During sexual intercourse, regardless of the size of the penis, it is stimulated by the head of the penis and gives pleasure to the woman. The crown of the glans seems to be designed to stimulate this area. Likewise, this area can be stimulated by the partner with finger insertion to prepare the woman for orgasm.
WHAT IS BRIDGETING?
Bridge is the process of stimulating both the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time. It is called doing. In bridge massage, the man can perform both feet himself, or the G-spot can be stimulated by the man (with penis or fingers) and the clitoris by the woman. The easiest way to reach orgasm in a relaxed body is to create a bridge.
TO Ejaculate or To Have an Orgasm?
Although it is often used in the same sense, having an orgasm is different. It is an event. It is a mystical experience that can be described as going to another world, where confusion is also experienced. It is experienced very rarely. In general, ejaculation is a physical orgasm and a spiritual relief. In our opinion, while ejaculation is a right that must be experienced in every sexual intercourse, having an orgasm is a gift that can be experienced from time to time.
SEXUAL RELUTION AND AXULATION PROBLEMS IN WOMEN
The absence of sexual fantasies and desire for sexual activity, regardless of any medical reason (mental or physical), is called "hypoactive sexual desire disorder". Sexual arousal disorder is a disorder during sexual intercourse. It is the name given to situations that manifest themselves as not feeling enthusiastic, not feeling, not getting wet and not being able to swell, despite the desire to do so. In order to consider all of these as problems, a prerequisite is that they have continued for at least 6 months and caused difficulties or conflicts in the person or in the partner relationship. It is seen in 30-40% of married women.
It is very difficult to define sexual desire or reluctance. Insensitivity to people's mutual demands or orientations can sometimes lead to a relative reluctance towards sexual activities on the other side. Here, women often do not participate because they think they are not important, they do not enjoy sexual activity, and their desire decreases over time. Or, if one person's desire is too high, it may automatically reduce the other person's desire. We call such situations "inconsistency in sexual desire". These problems can be eliminated with good communication.
A woman with sexual reluctance can either come to a doctor by saying "I have no sexual desire or desire" or by her husband saying "My wife is extremely uninterested in sex". . Here, is sexual reluctance the main problem for that couple or is it a reflection of other sexual problems or other marital problems? First of all, the answer to these questions is extremely important for the solution.
Sexuality and its activity state, sex, is undoubtedly an absolute necessity of every marriage. Undoubtedly, this is an energy that is activated after the spouses meet each other's emotional needs. Every woman wants to see romance from her husband, to be listened to, to be understood, to have a good time, to be touched, and to feel that she is unique. These are ancient and universal teachings that are thousands of years old. Of course, it is not possible to expect eroticism from a woman who does not have these. Whether these preconditions are met or not is the main issue of the communication phase of therapy. When these are achieved, the woman's sexual desire begins to flare up when she sees the lust for "her" in her partner's eyes. The heart of female sexuality is her absolute submission to her partner. This is only possible by spiritually seeing your partner as your man and feeling yourself as that man's woman. Under the conditions stated above, it completely It is extremely easy for women who have given up on sex and can present their bodies to their partners as a gift, to complete their sexual cycles and reach orgasm. It is the woman's husband who will provide these conditions. While we solve women's sexual adjustment problems, we see their partners as the main part of this treatment. Because the main therapeutic element is definitely the wife, the husband.
EMACULATION AND ORGASM PROBLEMS IN WOMEN:
70% of women have sexual intercourse. It has been determined that approximately 30% of them cannot ejaculate at all. As with other problems, there must be no other cause and it must have been going on for at least 6 months. Whether or not ejaculation occurs is entirely in the woman's hands. At this point, the woman, not the man, must take primary responsibility for ejaculation problems. A woman who focuses on her own sensations, feelings and pleasure during intercourse with a relaxed body can easily orgasm. Our goal in treatment is to teach the woman how to take responsibility for ejaculation. Ejaculation problems can occur in 4 ways.
1- Random ejaculation (sometimes ejaculation and sometimes not ejaculation)
2- Failure to ejaculate when penis and vagina are together, ejaculation only with masturbation
3- Inability to ejaculate at all (this is the most important problem)
4-Premature ejaculation (very rarely seen in women)
MAIN CAUSES OF EJACULATION AND ORGASM PROBLEMS:
1-Some blood pressure depression medications can prevent ejaculation.
2-Sexual myths that cause fear and stress in the person (masturbation breaks the hymen, first sexual intercourse is very painful, thinking about sexuality is a shame and a sin, women should never He does not show his sexual desire, etc.)
3-Inadequate sexual stimulation (also inadequate sexual stimulation by the partner)
4-Relational conflicts, resentments
5-Fear of being a woman (thinking that if I orgasm, I have become a woman, femininity is bad)
6-Existing sexual dysfunctions in the partner (such as erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation)
7- Having a child as soon as you get married
8-Fear of losing control during sexual intercourse (for example, fear of making moves that you will regret or blurting out the wrong things)
9-Constantly worrying about yourself
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