Tips to Strengthen Your Relationship with Your Child

1. Grab your child's attention

*When giving commands, make sure that his/her full attention is on you,

*While speaking Turn off the television, radio and music. /p>

*Speak clearly, without shouting.

2. Be positive

Tell your child what to do instead of what not to do. Saying "Please eat your potatoes too" is more effective than saying "Stop playing with your potatoes."

3. Clearly define the rules and write them down

The rules Clearly defining rules prevents arguments. Focus on the rules that are truly important to you and other members of your family; do not waste time on less important ones.

4. Praise your child

Tell your child how pleased you are when he completes a task or behaves well. Praise should come immediately after the praised behavior.

5. Reward

Changing some of your child's behaviors and giving positive feedback Use the reward system to reinforce behaviors. In this system, your child collects points for each good behavior and when he reaches a certain point, he can earn a pre-agreed reward of his choice. You can use anything you want to keep track of the points. For example, a button for each positive behavior is placed in the jar. You can keep track of their scores by throwing them.

You can write your agreement on "agreement cards" and hang these cards on the refrigerator or a kitchen cabinet. This way, both your child and you will remember what the agreement is.

6.Peace Plan

Make some arrangements to end stress and mutual tension at home and outside the home. If it is difficult for you to go shopping with your child, arrange a time when you can do the shopping on your own in peace. If a car ride together gives you scary moments, try splitting it into two or more short trips where you can do different things during the breaks.

7. Say clearly how you feel

Instead of directly criticizing the child (e.g. "you are being naughty"), talk about how their behavior affects you ("this behavior really upsets me"). )

8.Avoid arguments

There are clearly defined rules. You know them, and your child knows them too. Do not argue with your child about the established rules. For example, if your child is talking to someone else. When the child takes his toy, say "… please give the dinosaur to…. I will count to 3:1…..(wait 5 seconds), 2…….(stronger) three" and make the child feel your determination and avoid unnecessary stubbornness.

9. Take a break to calm down

You cannot solve any problem when you are angry. In moments of crisis with your child, instead of being mutually stubborn and engaging in a power struggle, take a break until the relationship calms down.

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