There is no problem-free relationship...
According to Gottman Institute research, there is no problem-free relationship, but there are happy relationships. Studies show that even couples who say they are happy have problems, and that 61% of these problems are generally unsolvable, while 39% are at best achievable and solvable. At this point, it seems that the important thing is to focus on the solvable part of the problems. Well, let's see what else provides the opportunity for a happy relationship:
1. Getting to know each other, being interested in each other.
This recognition is a wide spectrum, from a person's weakest aspects to their strongest aspects, from the thing they fear most in life to their favorite food. It seems important to keep this interest fresh and update it in the later years of the relationship. Because all of this can change over time. Remember that your relationship is alive, just like you...
2. Being in contact.
With the advancing years, added and increasing responsibilities, perhaps children, it seems important not to lose contact with each other no matter what happens between parents. It is important to be mutually aware of what you feel and what you need. Sometimes it seems like there is no opportunity, but instead of a “to-do list” during the day, a message or call with words of love or longing; Preparing a short massage or a fatigue coffee while preparing a meal will help refresh both parties. Don't ignore the short moments until you create large times.
3. Taking care of and sharing mutual emotional and physical needs.
4. Being able to express problems as constructively as possible.
Being able to focus on the complaint and problem and express your feelings and needs, instead of personal insults, humiliation, judgment and criticism, or cutting off communication and getting offended, can save you from a serious burden. This also makes it easier to achieve your desires. Despite the problems, it prevents you and your relationship from wearing out.
5. Focusing on each other's positive aspects.
Trying to focus on each other's efforts and what they do rather than what they don't do will also make it easier to stay in communication. Remember, every relationship has strengths and weaknesses. strengths Realizing it will be more useful in solving problems.
6. Personal space.
It seems important to make room for needs and dreams, and even support each other. Otherwise, two people working together may become inefficient.
7. Being able to dream common dreams.
Making plans and striving for future dreams is an important component that fosters the feeling of togetherness.
8. A meticulous sexual life that takes care of both parties.
It seems important for relationship satisfaction that sexuality and contact with each other are at the top of your priorities. Being able to talk about sexuality and listening to mutual needs and expectations can be the determinant of a happy relationship.
9. Not missing even the slightest opportunities for shared time and flirting.
It is important not to lose contact even in periods when some other responsibilities in life (e.g., children, parents, health problems, work, etc.) come to the fore.
Bonus item: And finally, according to the Gottmans, a 6-second kiss a day is a golden opportunity to strengthen your bond with your partner and catch the positive mood!
And you, did you give your 6-second kiss today?
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