One of the issues that families have difficulty with is their children's aggressive behavior. Irritable behavior, which usually begins around the age of 2-3, persists for many years unless precautions are taken. Bad temper; It manifests itself with behaviors such as anger, insistence, stubbornness, insistence, aggressive behavior, harm, crying spells, defiance, and refusal to compromise. When it comes to such behaviors, parents should act jointly and avoid situations and discourses that reinforce behaviors they think are wrong in the child. For example; Children who speak rudely at a young age should not be laughed at or should stay away from statements that support behavior such as "He is young, let him understand, let him do what he wants". Every behavior in which the child does not behave correctly should be explained as to why it is not correct, and the consequences should be explained to the child if this behavior continues.
One of the most important reasons for the continuation or emergence of combative behavior in children is that the answers of the mother and father are different from each other. is that it is inconsistent. When one parent says "no" and the other says "yes", the child cannot develop a healthy way of behavior, believes that someone from the family will support him in his wrong behavior, and continues the behavior. Therefore, parents should first review their attitudes towards the child and change problematic attitudes. In this process, it is recommended that family members do not blame each other and deal with the problem constructively.
One of the factors that cause behavioral problems in children to be reinforced and continue are family elders (grandmother, grandmother, grandfather, etc.). In cases where unpreventable behavioral problems are encountered, family elders should pay attention to the fact that they should not behave in ways that go beyond the boundaries of the mother and father. For example; While the mother and father teach the child that it is wrong to hurt his friends, the grandfather should not speak in support of hitting. Otherwise, the child does not listen to his parents and ignores their rules. When he does not behave correctly, he trusts that there are people who will support him and continues to exhibit wrong behavior. It would be difficult to break this cycle. A. Mother and father should set boundaries well and act accordingly, and family elders should not go beyond the rules set by their parents. Here, the rules set for the child are also important. Rules in which only the feelings of the mother and father are prioritized, an authoritarian structure exists, and the child's feelings are ignored cause the child to rebel and exhibit pugnacious behavior.
When children behave irritably, sometimes families cannot control the situation and become angry with the child. Blaming and shouting behaviors occur. Getting angry or blaming the child does not help the child understand the situation better, on the contrary, it causes the behavior to be reinforced. When you encounter such a situation, you should remain calm and not be stubborn with the child. You can explain the inappropriate behavior, but the explanation should not be so long that it confuses the child or distracts from the topic. Clear and understandable expressions should be used.
The child's self-confidence, who is described as combative by his family and environment, is broken, he blames himself and sees himself as inadequate compared to other children. For this reason, when you notice that your child is exhibiting irritable behavior, getting support from child mental health experts to help him get through the process will help your child solve this problem in a healthy way.
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