What is self-confidence?
Self-confidence is the evaluation a person makes about his own identity by evaluating external references. The totality of our beliefs and feelings about our identity and what we can do constitutes our self-confidence.
Self-confidence refers to both our belief and feelings that we are satisfied with ourselves and at peace with ourselves, as well as the image and behavior we give to the outside world as if we are confident.
When the child is 3-4 years old, he accumulates ideas about himself from those around him. If the stimuli are positive, the child's self-confidence develops positively. However, if the stimuli are negative and towards what he cannot do, the child will feel worthless and will begin to believe that he is an incompetent and worthless being. This lays the foundations for an individual with low self-confidence.
What are the factors that affect self-confidence?
The positive relationship between mother and baby forms the basis of self-confidence. Meeting all the needs of the baby, doing these regularly, the mother touching her child and giving love ensures the establishment of a special relationship between mother and child.
Self-confidence develops with healthy parent-child communication and appropriate parent and teacher attitudes. Healthy parental attitude (reassuring, supportive attitude) is the attitude in which parents are tolerant towards the child, support them, and allow them to do what they want, subject to some restrictions. A normal level of tolerance enables the child to become a self-confident and creative individual. In this attitude, accepted and unacceptable behaviors at home are clear.
The child has the right to say. Their feelings and thoughts are respected. It is listened to by adults. Thus, the child gains self-confidence and learns to bear responsibility.
If the mother is not sensitive enough and does not show love during infancy, and the relationship between mother and child is not continuous and consistent, the child cannot develop a sense of trust in the mother and the outside world, and the foundations of an insecure personality are laid. .
The child's self-confidence is also affected by the relationships of family members with each other. Frequent conflicts and fights between parents in front of the child make the child insecure about the continuity of the family.
The parents' own self-confidence levels also affect the child's self-confidence development.
The more the child knows that he is loved and valued by his family, the more his self-confidence increases. However, a child who receives a lot of love but whose talents are not accepted as they should may also have a lack of self-confidence.
Self-confidence is a feeling that can be damaged easily. Even if there are positive experiences in the early childhood years, self-confidence problems may arise as a result of later inappropriate experiences.
Opressive, authoritarian and overprotective parental attitudes prevent the development of self-confidence. Love is presented with an overly giving and protective behavior. Even though the child is cared for like a baby, there are many expectations from him. Nothing is spared; Private lessons are taken and various opportunities are provided. In return, high levels of success are expected from the child. Since this expectation is presented with love, it is often easily adopted and assimilated by children.
Lack of self-confidence causes failure in school and other areas of life.
Lack of self-confidence makes individuals fragile and easily vulnerable. This causes them to perceive the world as a place full of difficulties and dangers.
Children who have positive thoughts about themselves can cope with the conflicts they encounter more easily and their problem-solving skills are more developed. For children with low self-confidence, new situations they encounter may cause anxiety and disappointment.
What are the symptoms of lack of self-confidence?
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Emotional, social and having difficulty in academic matters,
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Exhibiting shy or bullying behavior at school,
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Being emotionally extremely fragile and sensitive,
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Being closed to new experiences,
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Shyness and introversion,
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Clinging to parents,
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Always trying to make people happy,
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Frequently asking for help eme
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Don't give up easily
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Don't talk negatively about yourself
What can be done to improve self-confidence?
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Unconditional love should be given.
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The child is important and valuable. should be felt.
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The child should be approved, encouraged and supported.
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A positive and democratic family environment should be offered.
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A determined, consistent and supportive parental attitude should be exhibited.
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The interactions of family members with each other should be positive.
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Parents should not have excessive expectations regarding academic performance.
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The child should be given responsibilities in line with his age and skills (such as collecting his toys, setting the table and helping to put it away)
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Parents should not be overprotective.
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The child's misperceptions about himself should be corrected
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Children should be directed to group activities and activities with their peers rather than individual activities.
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