Most of the children who come to Play Therapy; They are real children, lost in time among the problems. The reason why these children are defined as problematic is because they exhibit aggressive, fighting, disturbing and noisy behavior. Because they constantly create new problems not only for themselves but also for those who are in close relationship with them (parents, teachers, caregivers). These children, who are seen as problematic, are actually unhappy and helpless children who have not been shown the feelings of love, respect, security and happiness that every child has the right to. In fact, they are the ones who are defenseless and in the most difficult situation. They have problems but they don't know how to solve them. They try to vent their tension with aggressive and quarrelsome behavior, but these behaviors cause them to experience more problems.
I cannot help but share with you my views that I think are effective in this type of behavior of children. Many of us, as parents, become expectant parents before we have yet managed to maintain our marriage in an orderly manner. Are we ready to have children yet? We don't know the answer to this question. That's why most of us have children before we're ready for this responsibility. We put our children at the center of our lives. We have difficulty accepting our children as individuals. While we use traditional methods when raising children, we also use methods appropriate to the changing age. Meanwhile, we may unintentionally set wrong examples for our children with our behaviors that we think are doing them a favor. It is known that these situations are caused by factors such as education level, socioeconomic structure, cultural structure and living standards. From this point of view, it may be misleading to see only our children as a problem. We, as parents, can turn to play therapy after we have done our share.
In recent years, play therapy has generally been an effective method to understand and help children who have adaptation problems. It has a very wide range. It has a wide range of areas ranging from behavioral problems to adaptation problems to overly aggressive, uninhibited or overly repressed, withdrawn and inhibited children. In play therapy, actually the child The message to be given is; I am here for you, I understand your feelings, I hear you, you can trust me. You should know that here you are unconditionally accepted as you are…. Therefore, play therapy represents a process. There are a number of principles that the therapist must follow. These must be followed during therapy. It is important for the sense of trust that the relationship between the therapist and the child does not leave the therapy room. Using definitive statements to parents such as "We will solve your child's behavior problems and all adaptation problems" will cause us to be misunderstood. We, play therapists, help children reflect the emotions they experience by providing the support they need.
There is no need for a serious maladjustment problem to give our children the support they need. Children do not see themselves as a source of problems anyway. Children in this situation feel alone. Their situation constantly gets worse because of their undesirable behavior. In order to get out of this vicious circle, they have the opportunity to express their feelings through play therapy. When the child feels that he is loved, safe and successful, he embraces life with all his heart. He manages to stay strong in the face of life's ups and downs. When a child is unhappy, it shows in his eyes. Children react with all their sensitivity to any help they receive. Even children with very maladaptive behaviors respond quickly in play therapy. With this method, children have the opportunity to reflect their feelings and understand themselves.
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