Parents; They feel doubly sad about psychological problems related to their children. Especially mothers are under suspicion. They are held responsible for the upbringing of children, young people, especially girls. Sometimes it gets crushed between mother, father and children. I know a man who divorced his wife because his daughter married a young man he did not approve of.
Even if parents unanimously raise him with a certain discipline, a completely different young person can emerge.
On average, young people are similar to families in many ways (There are pears at the bottom of a pear tree. This is a proverb. The most beautifully grafted pear tree has at least one crooked pear at the bottom) Their separation even at small points causes huge problems in some families. is converted. Many parents think they are the 'OWNER' of the child. However, he is only his 'Guardian'. In other words, children are separate individuals who are 'entrusted' to their parents. We must respect body and personality boundaries. Those who try to take their children captive by saying 'You should not call your parents "poof" are usually parents who do not bear their own responsibilities.
A child is like a plant seed, its type becomes clear as it grows. Your calm child may turn out to be a crazy teenager, and your child may turn out to be a workaholic young man. Sometimes a compassionate young man can emerge from an extremely naughty child.
50% genetic structure is shaped by 50% environmental structure. No matter what the parents do, a child can grow up with a completely different character. It is as possible as the possibility of a black person being born from two white people.
It is the most painful situation in life. The "unruly child" is a nightmare for many parents. The proverb "What do you do with your child's property? If your child's property is good with you? What do you do with your child's property?" describes the priceless value of a good-natured, hard-working child. In the saying "There is no one like a mother", the unconditional love of mothers is mentioned, but on the other hand, motherless children are on the road, everywhere... Street children, those who sell tissues, those who beg, those who wash windows. They also have mothers and fathers to whom they have no right to say 'ugh'.
Children of families in great chaos are at risk in every way, especially in terms of alcohol and substances, but addiction can still emerge from every family and individual. After all, people; They consult a psychiatrist for their illnesses, and although they complain most about their spouses and children, they suffer the most severe trauma in the open and covert conflicts between them and their parents. Sometimes it takes us a long time to “make them farewell and settle accounts”, sometimes we have the deceased parent write a letter afterwards.
Parents are not the only role models for children. Nuclear family, extended family, neighbors, television series, the internet, and many more role models were added. The neighborhood is limitless now thanks to the internet. Let me close with a little-known proverb: “A tyrant is born from a scholar, and a scholar is born from a tyrant.”
Sweating in the bath
A concrete example of wanting the softening and relaxing aspect of the bath but not accepting sweating must have been said for wanting to have fun but not agreeing to spend money. You know, sometimes you go out to have fun and come back with a heavy heart. Most of the time, it is not 'LOVELESS' that ends marriages.
DISPECT is the bigger distinguishing factor. There are also firsts and uniques in people's lives. If you are not with your relatives during life's crisis periods such as birth, moving, illness, marriage, death, etc., they will not forget. It doesn't matter if you prepared food for him 99 times and served it to him when he was full. Once you leave him alone while he is hungry, it will leave a scar for a lifetime.
Example from life: We wanted to make our lamb, who has been preparing for YGS for 1.5 years, laugh by taking him to a comedy movie on the last day before the exam. Although the movies we wanted were in Cevahir, my wife, who was driving in front of Astoria, ordered me to go to Profilo and we were already in Profilo until I connected to the internet. On a Saturday evening, all three of us were tired (two of us were guaranteed), we looked for a parking place, we looked at the location of the cinemas, we were tired and there was no comedy movie, my baby's face fell. The reason for his sudden decision was that this place was 2 liras cheaper. When he said, "Let's go to Cevahir again," our strength and energy were gone, so we had to choose a movie from there. While my wife was buying a ticket in the long queue, we bought 2 salep for 2 TL at the place marked '1 TL coffee' right in front of the cinema, we turned around and my wife was not there. We'll buy him a coffee too, he doesn't like sahlep. We sat down and waited for a while, 'credit card' 'He went to load money,' said the little lamb. I, the experienced pessimist, feel uneasy. I called the phone and there was no answer, we waited and waited... The child got restless and called no one. He answered when he wanted, came and sat down with the lie of "I went out to look for you", we immediately ordered his coffee, otherwise he would get offended, and after a while he forgot his lie. He started counting the stores he visited by name. He looked at the prices of suits one by one in expensive stores. However, if he told us, we wouldn't tie him up, he would look at the suit and we two tired people would sit comfortably. We couldn't even tell which behavior my passive-aggressive wife was punishing for.
Don't let countless examples like this become a drain on your inner energy...
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