Infancy is a very important period in which unwanted behaviors can be prevented before they start, and when they start, early and effective solutions can be provided. Sometimes families do not know how to deal with undesirable behaviors and experience a deadlock.
Unwanted behavior is the behavior that the family defines as such. Although the behavior here belongs to the child, it is the family that perceives and does not want it. Therefore, focusing only on behavior may cause us to overlook the child's feelings and thoughts.
Knowing the limit is good, it makes the child feel safe and happy. Babies and children actually need limits. If there is no safe and close relationship between the parent and the child, boundary setting behavior will not be effective. Because the underlying reason for many undesirable behaviors is that the child wants to attract attention in order to have a relationship. Because for children, even a negative relationship is better than no relationship.
*Try to spend time with your child during the day, without any negative interaction, by devoting your attention only to him/her.
*Understand your child's feelings. You can criticize their behavior, not their feelings, thoughts and personality (such as saying this behavior is not nice, instead of saying "You are very naughty, what is expected from you anyway)
*The best way for children to learn is to actually allow them to explore freely. Therefore, prepare the environment of your home accordingly and do not hinder their independence with constant rules. Say no where you really need to say no.
*For things that should not be done, especially for young babies, it is effective to replace them with something that will attract their attention and offer an alternative before they cry.
*Especially after the age of 2, it is effective to avoid unwanted behavior. It is very important and effective to talk about this behavior, share your feelings about this behavior, and inform the child beforehand.
*Some undesirable behaviors can be prevented even by ignoring, stimulating, and attracting attention. When the child shows positive behavior, attention and interest are immediately given back. As with every method, for this method to work, the relationship between the child and the family must be positive, intense and satisfying.
*If the undesirable behavior persists, minor sanctions can be applied. ir. This is never a punishment and the child should be informed beforehand that there will be consequences for his/her behavior.
*Make your rules few, logical and easy. Follow these rules too. Let's not forget that children often learn from what they see and experience, not what they hear. It is not only important what you say to a child, but also how you say it.
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