The relationship between the parent/caregiver and the baby during infancy between the ages of 0-2 affects the person's level of attachment/dependence in later periods.
People who receive secure attachment and unconditional love from the caregiver (caregiver) have no problems with attachment or addiction in later ages. It is stated that there is no problem. The sign of love at this age is reflected to the other party as a little bit of affection and a little bit of nurturance. Oversatiation and undersatiation of these states, which we call physiological and emotional nutrition, are reflected in the relationships a person establishes with everything (people, objects) around him in adulthood. It is possible for children, especially those exposed to inconsistent displays of love, to show borderline tendencies in later ages. At this point, the mother-daughter relationship is important. On the other hand, attachment-phobia also develops in this way.
Oral fixation is an important finding in this age range. It is highly likely that babies who are not fed enough will develop various addictions (especially alcohol and cigarettes) later in life. Because the source of pleasure for individuals aged 0-2 is the mouth. Babies try to recognize everything by putting it in their mouth and interpreting it in their own way. Melanie Klein's concepts of good breast and bad breast exemplify this. Within the framework of these concepts, the one with high nutritional value and helping to fill one's body sufficiently is described as good breast, and the one that is inadequate and deficient is described as bad breast. And babies who cannot get enough nutrition from the breast may tend to compensate for this deficiency in other ways at a later age. Because individuals who do not reach sufficient saturation or are oversatisfied get stuck in the oral phase. Just as too much of anything is harmful, too much of it is harmful to the individual. The continuity of the pleasure received there is desired and there is a demand for the continuity to never end. Fixation in this oral stage is called oral fixation. This situation increases the person's tendency towards gluttony, slang and swearing (swearing), smoking, alcohol and drug addiction in the future life, as well as situations such as hiding behind learned helplessness and fear of commitment, thinking that he will not be able to meet the pleasure he seeks.
In some cases, attachment. be afraid It is a situation that is reinforced by learning. It functions as a kind of defense mechanism. People who close themselves off from everything that is not them for a long time develop a fear of commitment in addition to a permanent personality disorder. Attachment problems are very common, especially in people with an obsessive personality structure. Obsessions are aimed at the person exhibiting behaviors to protect himself.
The following behaviors of these people attract particular attention:
• They can be very polite even when they are rude because they do not want others to remember them badly.
• They make sure that they are perfect. For this reason, deep down they are perfectionists and cruel to themselves. On the other hand, they see it as normal for other people to make mistakes. But according to them, they should definitely not make mistakes.
• Generally, they like to sleep alone.
• They do not prefer anyone to approach their areas of freedom. They have limits.
• They prefer to establish superficial relationships rather than having permanent people in their lives. Closeness can be established with them as much as they allow.
• Their relationships with the opposite sex are generally physical and very superficial. They do not establish emotional bond
• They remove all evidence immediately after making love. They hurriedly throw items such as sheets/towels into the washing machine and start the machine immediately. It has been observed that people with excessive tendencies throw these materials into the garbage and throw the garbage bag into the garbage container outside. • They always stay away from reminders. (The previous article explains this situation.) • They tend to use the people in their life according to their own wishes. They always want to shape everything within the framework of their priorities. • They make A-B-C plans and try to calculate the next step. When their plans do not go well, they become dizzy and may tend to panic. • They want their minds to be clear. There is black or white in their lives, there is no room for gray.
• As soon as they start to feel something emotional, they retreat into their own shells and try to live a reclusive life until these feelings pass.
• They could not tolerate anything permanent in their lives. r.
• They prefer to get away from or get rid of some things rather than fixing them.
• They are quite manipulative and emotionally abuse the people around them.
These people need to receive cognitive behavioral therapy support for about 1 year. It is possible to resolve comorbidity with an eclectic method by going through a process that includes treatment methods for unresolved grief, anxiety, obsession, and post-traumatic stress disorder.
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